when you're just unsure

[winning_team]

Well, this is my first post on this forum. i've been reading here for a while now and felt that it was time i joined and posted. So the deal is i used to be an AFC to the max and it wasn't getting me anywhere so i happened across this site and thought it was gold. Reading EVERYTHING here has helped me and has opened my eyes tremendously.
So now the the actual topic of this thread. I've had this girlfriend for about a month now and i like her. However, it seems like she might have more of the power in this relationship than i do and i don't know if it's just me being paranoid or if she really is controlling everything. I'm not gonna be heart broken if i have to break up with her or she breaks up with me, as i have learned there are more fish in the sea, but i kind of want to just get some advice from you guys and gals to kind of test my new found knowledge. Now i know that sounds really messed up but i do like this girl and i wouldn't hurt anyone just for the sake of knowledge but if you guys could maybe point me in the right direction with a few tips that would be awesome.

 

[WC2]

It's good you're looking at your relationship from the outside.

First you need to ask yourself if you're 100% happy. If you aren't happy with your relationship, either you are not ready or she is not the right person for you. Move on.

Now if you are 100% happy, it's good to check up on things once in awhile. Is she still optimistic about the relationship? Does she still make plans just for you two on occasion? Does she call you often? Is the sex just as good as it was when you first started dating? All obvious signs. If you answered yes to all of these, most likely you're in a healthy relationship where both of you still care for each other.

With that said, you can never see 100% clearly into the future. Some of the best girlfriends I have ever had have totally flipped relationships upside down just because they are unpredictable. I've had girls ask me to date them and break up with me a month later.

Analyze your relationship every now and then, but don't go to extremes. You want to be happy after all, not paranoid.

 

[winning_team]

Thanks for the advice. yes i am completely happy and i feel she is optomistic according to conversations and actions. she makes plans for us and she calls often. The physical aspect is just as good as well. I think you're right and i am just over analyzing. thanks again.