"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When you're down people love you, but when you're up they hate you

bobby87

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Thats something ive realised.

When you're down and got nothing going for you, people seem to like you, as you are a failure and not a success, and they don't really feel threatened by you.

But when you're up and look like you're successful and things are going well for you, people seem to give off bad vibes to you and try to bring you down, whenever they can.

This is mainly people who already knew the old you.

Anyone agree with what im saying? Am i right or am i right?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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Yes, this sometimes happens with people who KNEW the old you. Most new people you meet will be attracted to you and respect you for it; as long as they aren't jealous creeps and you don't act super arrogant.

This is because when your life isn't going anywhere and suddenly this guy you know is doing much better, it makes you resentful. You see yourself stagnating in your current mediocrity and devleop jealousy, maybe even anger that he's moving up and you're being left behind. Some people devlop these kinds of feelings.
 

JonJack

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If you happen to meet people like these, avoid them like the plague. Just being around them will make you a lesser person. They'll try and bring you down to where they are, and that's no where.

There will always be low life losers like these. And then there will be those that are happy to see you succeed. Keep those that are happy for you close. But keep those that will stand by you when you're down even closer. These are the friends that sticks by you even when you've got nothing to give them. Now that's true friendship.
 

ScrewIt

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yea...

yes i notice that too. But only jealous bastards allow that to get to them.

in the past when i was more successful and positive about life. i attracted people that took genuine interest in me, in addition they wanted to be my friend.

My unsuccesful & unemployed non social friends on the other hand get jealous, and resent me when im successful/ambitious.

Now im in a slump and when im not successful, i have trouble attracting people cause they know i dont care about anything.

those friends, seem to relate to me better and like me better cause i've become an unsuccessful/unambitious mess like them.
 

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If you have a good attitude about it all, and want to help other people they will respect!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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