This is kinda long.
It happened last Saturday. I hadn't seen him in a while, and he calls me and we decide to go out to a nightclub pick up girls.
I've known this guy for like 13 years (I'm 23) and I have always considered him one of my best friends (not night pick ups friends). We always helped each other out a lot.
(Thinking back, I actually helped him a great deal more).
Actually in the last few years he had gone down a little bit in the friend scale, one of the reasons being he can be selfish like hell about some things and that just pisses me off (it was not about girls then).
But anyway, I figured he's human and we all make mistakes once in a while.
Wrong!
We went out and things were going very smoothly, we were at the club and we approached chicks that were friends. We both did our thing and picked them up. He was driving, and he said he was going to leave the girls at a bus stop because they lived a bit far from the place.(we could've banged them right then, but there was a third friend who "wanted to go home" so the other two were a bit shy about it).
Well, that's what we did, we went and stopped at the bus stop. Unfortunately, I began to sober up very quickly and realize that my girl wasn't all that. On top of that, she said she was feeling kinda sick so we just stopped doing anything, prolly her IL dropped as well. (Funny fact: yesterday she sent me a msg saying I'm sorry.)
For some reason, my "friend" decided to wait up with the girls (it was like 5 am) and the frigging bus just wouldn't arrive. Of course he wanted to wait, he was the only one getting busy (well him and his lady).
I said "let's go home" like 5 times and he wouldn't even recognize what i was saying. "well he's completely drunk", i thought. suddenly he got in the car with her without saying anything and i thought that's it, i'm tired and going home alone. no "big deal" there yet.
I said goodbye to the girls and went grab a bus for myself. Well later i found out he ended up banging his chick, but that's not the point. Today he called me and said "what was up, were you crazy going home alone, if you had told me you wanted to go home, I'd go right away".
Ha! That's total BS. You were drunk like hell, my friend, and there could've been a holocaust around and it wouldn't have made a difference.
"Well you see I'm not calling you to apologize or anything, but I 'know' you were probably angry so I was just wondering what happened".
Well, thank you so much for that. But please enlighten me, how could you "know" that?
I don't care if the night sucked (and it didn't for the most part). I don't care if he was going to screw (up to that point i was cheering for him).
What pissed me off was the fact the he was laying the blame on ME, for not "telling" him that i was tired and ****. For f*cks's sake, I *yelled* at him. I'm angry because he was distorting the facts, that's it. He couldn't admit he screwed up.
It may sound like I'm bitter because he actually got to bang her, but I've been doing that at least twice a month (thanks to this site) and he hasn't for quite a while. Actually he was a bit of a downer when the night began, and I did everything to help him pick up a chick.
Then he gets drunk and thinks, "f*ck everything", and that unfortunately included myself.
Actually things like that had happened before, but I never got angry, specially because "wingmen" aren't exactly known for their consideration with others. We just go there, we help each other out, we go bang (or not) and that's it, see ya next weekend. No problemo.
But with someone I thought was a friend... I mean, I drink quite a bit and I know how it is when you see the opportunity, but I'd never do the same to him. It's not worth it. I would have told him to go, or something, or at least call him and apologize for being selfish. This is such a disappointment I'm gonna start going out on my own again.
To me, this friendship is over, cos i can't trust him anymore. What sucks even more is that i'm starting to sound like a girl (i know), and god i don't want that.
someone please tell me that i'm over-reacting and that it was no big deal. am i being a wuss? is he a loser? enlighten me and show me the truth, you DJs.
It happened last Saturday. I hadn't seen him in a while, and he calls me and we decide to go out to a nightclub pick up girls.
I've known this guy for like 13 years (I'm 23) and I have always considered him one of my best friends (not night pick ups friends). We always helped each other out a lot.
(Thinking back, I actually helped him a great deal more).
Actually in the last few years he had gone down a little bit in the friend scale, one of the reasons being he can be selfish like hell about some things and that just pisses me off (it was not about girls then).
But anyway, I figured he's human and we all make mistakes once in a while.
Wrong!
We went out and things were going very smoothly, we were at the club and we approached chicks that were friends. We both did our thing and picked them up. He was driving, and he said he was going to leave the girls at a bus stop because they lived a bit far from the place.(we could've banged them right then, but there was a third friend who "wanted to go home" so the other two were a bit shy about it).
Well, that's what we did, we went and stopped at the bus stop. Unfortunately, I began to sober up very quickly and realize that my girl wasn't all that. On top of that, she said she was feeling kinda sick so we just stopped doing anything, prolly her IL dropped as well. (Funny fact: yesterday she sent me a msg saying I'm sorry.)
For some reason, my "friend" decided to wait up with the girls (it was like 5 am) and the frigging bus just wouldn't arrive. Of course he wanted to wait, he was the only one getting busy (well him and his lady).
I said "let's go home" like 5 times and he wouldn't even recognize what i was saying. "well he's completely drunk", i thought. suddenly he got in the car with her without saying anything and i thought that's it, i'm tired and going home alone. no "big deal" there yet.
I said goodbye to the girls and went grab a bus for myself. Well later i found out he ended up banging his chick, but that's not the point. Today he called me and said "what was up, were you crazy going home alone, if you had told me you wanted to go home, I'd go right away".
Ha! That's total BS. You were drunk like hell, my friend, and there could've been a holocaust around and it wouldn't have made a difference.
"Well you see I'm not calling you to apologize or anything, but I 'know' you were probably angry so I was just wondering what happened".
Well, thank you so much for that. But please enlighten me, how could you "know" that?
I don't care if the night sucked (and it didn't for the most part). I don't care if he was going to screw (up to that point i was cheering for him).
What pissed me off was the fact the he was laying the blame on ME, for not "telling" him that i was tired and ****. For f*cks's sake, I *yelled* at him. I'm angry because he was distorting the facts, that's it. He couldn't admit he screwed up.
It may sound like I'm bitter because he actually got to bang her, but I've been doing that at least twice a month (thanks to this site) and he hasn't for quite a while. Actually he was a bit of a downer when the night began, and I did everything to help him pick up a chick.
Then he gets drunk and thinks, "f*ck everything", and that unfortunately included myself.
Actually things like that had happened before, but I never got angry, specially because "wingmen" aren't exactly known for their consideration with others. We just go there, we help each other out, we go bang (or not) and that's it, see ya next weekend. No problemo.
But with someone I thought was a friend... I mean, I drink quite a bit and I know how it is when you see the opportunity, but I'd never do the same to him. It's not worth it. I would have told him to go, or something, or at least call him and apologize for being selfish. This is such a disappointment I'm gonna start going out on my own again.
To me, this friendship is over, cos i can't trust him anymore. What sucks even more is that i'm starting to sound like a girl (i know), and god i don't want that.
someone please tell me that i'm over-reacting and that it was no big deal. am i being a wuss? is he a loser? enlighten me and show me the truth, you DJs.
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