"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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When your "oneitis" girl likes you

dap

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I've had oneitis maybe three times, and two of those times the girl ended up liking me. However, I always f'uck it up because when you have oneitis for a girl you get too nervous/unnatural to communicate with her comfortably. This is just a lesson on oneitis: If you have oneitis for a girl, you will not get that girl. She will either not like you, or you will f'uck it up if she does like you. Oneitis is unnatural and it rarely if ever leads to a good relationship.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Obsidian

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most of the girls i've had oneitis for (in the recent past) refuse to date anyone. So that kinda makes me feel better in some ways.

but yeah, your post is true
 

IamtheAlphamale

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I disagree. Usually when I have 'oneitis' its the girl whos way more interested in me. Like to the point where they are basically stalking me and when in my presense are very obviously nervous to the point where they can't talk and stuff. Also the whole thing about not being able to get girls to drop their strategies and that ****.. thats a myth too. I got a oneitis to drop the games because she had been playing hard to get and I wouldn't budge. I even got her to basically pursue me. Just would go everywhere I went.. made friends with my friends. Made it very obvious. To the point where I could not screw it up. I really disagree with this stuff.
 

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dap said:
I've had oneitis maybe three times, and two of those times the girl ended up liking me. However, I always f'uck it up because when you have oneitis for a girl you get too nervous/unnatural to communicate with her comfortably. This is just a lesson on oneitis: If you have oneitis for a girl, you will not get that girl. She will either not like you, or you will f'uck it up if she does like you. Oneitis is unnatural and it rarely if ever leads to a good relationship.
exactly what happened/is happening to me. This girl likes me but I'm never fully natural around her. If I was I swear she'd be in love with me.

I gotta break my comfort barrier with her, that's all
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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IamtheAlphamale

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Its just in your head man. It does not matter how much you like her. Its completely based on how much she likes you. And since girls are way more emotional its more likely that she likes you more.
 
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