"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When your goto girl declines

Chromeo

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Wondering how deep you guys go in your rotation if your go to girl is busy for the night.

You keep diggin through the phone book until you find a taker or just go it alone/with your buddies.

I feel like sometimes I come off needy cuz I'll ask a girl to come out with me, she declines, I ask the next girl, but then ill ask first girl to do something a couple days later.

How often should I be rotating and should I be offering plans to girl #2 or girl #3 if girl #1 declines?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Chromeo

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goto as in your top choice for the night. sexing some yes, others no. but just a general question of whether or not im appearing like I have nobody to spend time with.

say tonight for example, Im going to see this tight band perform for free, free food and ****tails, then watching some fire dancers on the beach later, going with some friends, but good date opportunity as well.

so I asked this girl to go that weve been trying to get together but I had to decline because I was sick the other day. She cant go out cuz she has to work 15 hours till midnight tonight.

so do I ask another girl? and how long should I wait before I ask the first girl to do something again?

basically if I ask three girls and their all busy, I dont want to ask all three of those girls again to do something tomorrow and so on. It makes me look like i dont have options.
 

DonGorgon

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I have one main girl and i find its best to let them come to me.. when you start going to her she looses attraction and is prone to reject and that is never good... I dont have any other sure things besides her so i will try a few and see is i can get lucky.. but remember on any given night most women have at least 5 options for sex including their boyfriends..
 

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Go through the same rotation every day. When they ask about it, be straight up and tell them you go through the rotation every day. The kicker is when they ask what order they are (i.e. 1st 2nd 3rd), you can NEVER tell them, or just give a playful comment like "if you come along with me, you might find out" but still never tell them.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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