when your gf leaves

[kickureface]

my gf left for colllege today. we hung out yesterday till late night, sitting in my car and stuff. when i started going home i felt a little sad, but not too bad. i come back in the morning to see her before she leaves. i was fine entirely until i watched her car leave, and afterwards i felt tears. i didnt think it would affect me so much. the next time i see her will be thanksgiving, which at the moment seems like a pretty long time. you can call it oneitis, but this isnt the typical case of an afc with oneitis. its mutual, as she said she loved me last night.
anyways, im not really sure how to handle this. im ok now, but should i just carry on like i always do or what?
thanks.

 

[backbreaker]

m not really sure how to handle this.

start going on dates... she's doing the same

 

[KontrollerX]

Follow backbreaker's advice young padawan.

 

[kickureface]

hahaha, i would take that advice but ive known her for a while now and know her values and we made it clear to each other none of that stuff is going to happen, because she knows what i think about that and what happens when **** like that happens.

 

[DJorBUST]

Dude, never post anything on this board that would involve a relationship breaking up or signs of a relationship failing or anything else that would involve an opportunity for another guy to sweep in and have sex with your girlfriend. You are just going to get bombarded with 10 guys telling you how they think your girlfriend is going to get it from a dozen other men as soon as she steps foot on campus. It may be true, but why torture yourself? hahaha

 

[Interceptor]

Personally, I would have made our intentions clear BEFORE she left.
"Are we taking a break and free to date other people?" or "Are we going to try to make this work Long Distance?" (Did you even think about that?? Did she at least tell you something about this??)
If she said "I love you". don't you think you owe the little girl at least a little attempt at loyalty and fidelity?
Of course, I think she OWES you the SAME....

But, guys, are you all just jumping the gun on this guy's chick? You're already assuming she's a Hor Queen or something.


Seriousy, though, if you haven't talked to your chick about it, NOW IS the TIME to do so.

Good luck.
If she hesitates, or is a little wishy washy, be on GUARD....

If you're the kind of guy that will have a guilty conscience , think before you act.
You may regret it.

Find out first. Then ACT.

 

[DonDan]

Just cuz u guys had girls who cheated on them doesnt mean this dude didnt cop a woman and not a SLUT........ Dont listen to this advice. Call her every night, and talk to her for hours and hours till one of you fall asleep. Repeat this every night until u guys see eachother.

HOpe this helps.

 

[kickureface]

sorrry guys i guess i wasnt clear.
we are in a relationship and are continuing to do so. we decided that a little bit back.
and nice post interceptor. always enjoying what you write.

and calling everyday for hours and hours? i hope im missing the sarcasm. i think id run from myself if i d have to deal with that.

 

[backbreaker]

i dont' care how great, special, sweet, loving, unique, whatever other word you wanna throw in.. you are dating at this time an imginary friend. you are talking to someone who isn't there. you have feelings for something you can't see. If you dated Santa Claus for the next year... you would have the same results.

98% of all LDR's fail and the ones that don't both sides were so pathetic no one else wanted them.


you think when the star football player gets ahold of your "sweet, unique, different" whatever girl, and you aren't there to have to explain yourself to... Guilt Free SEx.. year long.. guilt fee sex.

you guys gotta grow up. this isn't high school. It's a reason I don't take a woman younger than me seriously. not that they are bad, but most are just getting out the house and you have to let them sow their oats a little. It's like getting a new ps3.. you wannta play it non stop.. then the novaltiy wears off and then you can be more pratical when you use it. Same with women and sex. A guy who thinks his babe is going to go from living at home, ti living out with friedns or living with him and stay attached scotch free is in for a rude awaking called life.

 

[JLW]

truck through it. generally these kinds of things dont work out. You will probably find someone new in college, as will she. I wouldn't sweat it.

Just stay busy and do what you enjoy doing.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Were you sexing her?

 

[backbreaker]

it doesn't matter LMS..where she is going it wont' be a problem with her finding d!ck.. nor will it be a problem with her turning it down.

 

[Cremasta]

Nothing is guaranteed, especially with long distance relationships, but if you want to keep her, then it would be a good idea to spend all that free time you now have improving yourself.

Work on your professional life
Go to the gym
Learn how to dance
Anything that makes you 'better'

So when she's showing the photo of you to her friends at college and talking about you, they'll be more likely to tell her what a great catch you are and less chance of her going shopping for another guy.

 

[Last Man Standing]

it doesn't matter LMS..where she is going it wont' be a problem with her finding d!ck.. nor will it be a problem with her turning it down.

A principled virgin woman is with a man for a different reason than for sexual pleasure - so it does matter! If he is sexing her then that "barrier" has been crossed and there is no deterrent, based on her values/principles, to hold her back from experiencing sexual gratification from a different "member"!

 

[backbreaker]

Nothing is guaranteed, especially with long distance relationships, but if you want to keep her, then it would be a good idea to spend all that free time you now have improving yourself.

Work on your professional life
Go to the gym
Learn how to dance
Anything that makes you 'better'

So when she's showing the photo of you to her friends at college and talking about you, they'll be more likely to tell her what a great catch you are and less chance of her going shopping for another guy.

it doesn't amtter how buff he is.. she's not there to see it. pictures and having a guy in front of you with a hard **** are two different things. hence imaginy friend

I'm not dating a woman I can't put my **** in 1 time a week at the very least.

 

[backbreaker]

the bottom line is.. and I'm tired of betting around the bushes with these nice ass answers and cuddling you guys.. your girl is about tog et more **** then she has ever seen. She is going to suck ****. 3 somes. College FF. let that **** sink in. it's a reason people go "away" to college.

and I'm not being mean, I am being REAL. you aren't dating a woamn, you are dating a figment of your imigation.

 

[DJorBUST]

See what I mean!!! (see above) :crackup:

 

[Last Man Standing]

See what I mean!!! (see above) :crackup:

BB is starting to sound like me!!

 

[backbreaker]

I'm done being nice. the only way I could possibly stay here is to tell it 150% like I see it and how i know it is. it's the only way **** will get accomplished.

your gF is going ot get the college cvck experience. rather you want to face reality or hide under the shell of your highs chool days, is up to you.

 

[Last Man Standing]

I'm done being nice. the only way I could possibly stay here is to tell it 150% like I see it and how i know it is. it's the only way **** will get accomplished.

your gF is going ot get the college cvck experience. rather you want to face reality or hide under the shell of your highs chool days, is up to you.

I've been speaking "real" for four years - that is frowned upon here and you will be labeled as a "woman" hater!!