When your GF assumes you are automatically getting married

[Trainwreck]

Is this common among relationships? I'm only 24

 

[Trainwreck]

How did you let yourself get into that position in the first place?

Clearly it should have come up in talks. And you should have told her "I don't believe in it".

Instead you have let her run amok. Only yourself to blame.

And I hope for your sakes that you haven't done the same with regards to the subject of having kids, or you are giving her a green light to spring a little surprise on you at her convenience.

But then if she's under the impression that you're getting married, she would probably hold that off anyway.

I will admit she knows my stance on children but the marriage thing is too optimistic.

 

[Dingo]

Is she rich ?....

 

[Initiatedindenial]

Funny post, this week end I was strolling around city center with my gf while we crossed a bridal shop. She goes "Let's go see the wedding dresses", my reply "I think we should go to Victoria secret instead"

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Is this common among relationships? I'm only 24

EVEN with sky high divorce rates HYPERGAMY is still alive and kicking. Especially if she's in her 20's and have never been married.

If her parents are still married and happy together then this is no doubt on her agenda.

 

[sazc]

I thought you were going to break up with her? Please stop wasting her time, and yours.

Moving forward, be honest with every female about who you are, and YOUR intentions. Yes, summertime's when you tell them "I dunt see kids or a marriage in my future" you are going to lose some of them, but it's better to lose some of them then to lead them on and find yourself repeatedly in this same place, whole you torture yourself with the same decisions of "how am I going to tell her?"

Live AUTHENTICALLY

 

[Urbanyst]

I thought you were going to break up with her? Please stop wasting her time, and yours.

Moving forward, be honest with every female about who you are, and YOUR intentions. Yes, summertime's when you tell them "I dunt see kids or a marriage in my future" you are going to lose some of them, but it's better to lose some of them then to lead them on and find yourself repeatedly in this same place, whole you torture yourself with the same decisions of "how am I going to tell her?"

Live AUTHENTICALLY

The thing is a lot of people don't really know what they want and they can change their minds later. Girls do it all the time btw.

How many girls in their 20's just want to sleep around, then later decide they want a LTR? Guys can do the same thing. We can change our minds too. There was a time when I really wanted to settle down and get married. Now I feel different.

 

[sazc]

The thing is a lot of people don't really know what they want and they can change their minds later. Girls do it all the time btw.

How many girls in their 20's just want to sleep around, then later decide they want a LTR? Guys can do the same thing. We can change our minds too. There was a time when I really wanted to settle down and get married. Now I feel different.

Agreed. In this case, when a mind does change, even if the change is directed at your current partner (I.e. I do want to get married, I just don't see you as being the person I marry) that is the moment you tell your feelings to the person you are dating.

Dragging out to spare yourself the intolerable uncomfortableness of having to deal with it, or so you can keep getting laid, is such a waste of everyone's life.

IMO a real man lives authentically

 

[Trainwreck]

EVEN with sky high divorce rates HYPERGAMY is still alive and kicking. Especially if she's in her 20's and have never been married.

If her parents are still married and happy together then this is no doubt on her agenda.

Yep her parents have been happily married forever, my parents divorced and my dad remarried 4 times and is pretty much stuck in a marriage right now. In addition, my mom has been mentally ill since the divorce, guess this can shape somebody's perspective on marriage lol.

The thing is a lot of people don't really know what they want and they can change their minds later. Girls do it all the time btw.

How many girls in their 20's just want to sleep around, then later decide they want a LTR? Guys can do the same thing. We can change our minds too. There was a time when I really wanted to settle down and get married. Now I feel different.

I remember in high school I wanted to have 10 kids like my friend's family lmao.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Yep her parents have been happily married forever, my parents divorced and my dad remarried 4 times and is pretty much stuck in a marriage right now. In addition, my mom has been mentally ill since the divorce, guess this can shape somebody's perspective on marriage lol.

Does she know this?

 

[Masculinity]

Is this common among relationships? I'm only 24

Don't let this assumption and emotional manipulation penetrate your psychology. Marriage is a rigged institution that mostly benefits women at the financial, familial, and legal expense of men.

The kind of chick that assumes you'll get married is the kind of chick that will lock you in with a bun her oven. My friend was trapped in the same situation, as she made progress little by little until he put his foot down. She went crazy, calling him the greatest names you can think of, placed a restraining order on him from approaching his own apartment (they lived together), accused him of hitting her, tried to get him prosecuted, threatened to sever his pen!s, and you don't want to hear the rest.

Now the chick uploads provocative pictures of herself with tiny tank tops and short skirts. You get the point. Your girl may not be a clone of this girl, but I would get out while you can. When they get the marriage chills, it's best abandon ship.

 

[wifehunter]

Been there...or at least in an LTR sense...My theory is...she's an entitled future hag.

 

[Trump]

Moving forward, be honest with every female about who you are, and YOUR intentions. Yes, summertime's when you tell them "I dunt see kids or a marriage in my future" you are going to lose some of them, but it's better to lose some of them then to lead them on

I don't agree with that. Woman manipulate ALL the time to get what they want from men. Once they get what they want and have no more use for the man, they move on while spitting in the mans face, making him broke, and laughing at him at the same time.

Live AUTHENTICALLY

Again cannot agree. Women don't 'live authentically.' Women live to manipulate, to humiliate, to get resources, to look good for their friends and family. They don't live for the 'man.' They could care less about the man. They care about what the man can do for them.

You want to live authentically? You wlll get absolutely destroyed, get bankrupt, get humiliated and lose the game.

You want to win game? Manipulate, manipulate, manipulate, change your words, change your circumstances, change your feelings, and always do what's best for you.

 

[sazc]

I don't agree with that. Woman manipulate ALL the time to get what they want from men. Once they get what they want and have no more use for the man, they move on while spitting in the mans face, making him broke, and laughing at him at the same time.



Again cannot agree. Women don't 'live authentically.' Women live to manipulate, to humiliate, to get resources, to look good for their friends and family. They don't live for the 'man.' They could care less about the man. They care about what the man can do for them.

You want to live authentically? You wlll get absolutely destroyed, get bankrupt, get humiliated and lose the game.

You want to win game? Manipulate, manipulate, manipulate, change your words, change your circumstances, change your feelings, and always do what's best for you.

That's an extremely weak frame to game within. Have fun with that.

 

[AlphaNate]

OP's gf:

 

[greatsnake]

LOL.. you're only 24-- let her go.

 

[ubercat]

24 no way. Run quick before she has a birth control malfunction.