"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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When your friends compliment your women in your life....

2Rocky

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Do you feel like your friends and colleagues, who have known you for 5 years plus, have a good perspective on women who are a good match for you?

Do you take their unsolicited opinions about your dates, plates, and girlfriends at face value?

Or do you think people will be unnecessarily positive in their reviews in order to preserve your dignity?

Have you ever had someone who gave a negative feedback who you later discovered was right?

FWIW this is purely speculative and for discussion purposes...follow up with your experiences
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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spikeanut

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Don't base your opinion of a woman on another person's views. Most guys are simps, and most female friends have no real inkling when it comes to a healthy relationship from a guy's perspective. The only real opinion that matters is yours, and you should always judge a woman by her actions towards you.
 
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People don't listen when you give them negative advice on a woman, they'll just stop talking to you, so that is usually useless even though they may eventually discover that you're right.

And most people won't tell you if they don't like someone based on the prior.
 

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Have you ever tried to talk a friend out of chasing tail? Do you expect that same friend to give optimal advice of any kind about women? lol
 

CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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If they criticize without offering an alternative, then they are more attacking you than critiquing in my opinion.

Every single time one of my friends has told me that girl was no good for me, it was because he personally knew of her doing some Creepy sex **** but couldn't tell me at that time, honestly it's such a small world
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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bmp2cpm

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Nine years ago I had a female friend. She would always tell me about her sister, putting her sister in a negative light.

One day I met my friend’s sister at a party. I decided to give her a hard time for all the things she did to my friend. But instead of avenging her, I inadvertently negged the sister big time.

Today I do not have a female friend, I have a sister-in-law.

Friend’s opinions are useful to a point. Be careful of female opinions, women always put themselves in the best light.

But opinions like “I know her and she is not batsh*t crazy” are the most useful opinions. Use opinions to help you vet.
 
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DEEZEDBRAH

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Do you feel like your friends and colleagues, who have known you for 5 years plus, have a good perspective on women who are a good match for you?

Do you take their unsolicited opinions about your dates, plates, and girlfriends at face value?

Or do you think people will be unnecessarily positive in their reviews in order to preserve your dignity?

Have you ever had someone who gave a negative feedback who you later discovered was right?

FWIW this is purely speculative and for discussion purposes...follow up with your experiences
Not sure why your girl and buddies are in the same place and time.
 

The Duke

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Do you feel like your friends and colleagues, who have known you for 5 years plus, have a good perspective on women who are a good match for you?

Do you take their unsolicited opinions about your dates, plates, and girlfriends at face value?

Or do you think people will be unnecessarily positive in their reviews in order to preserve your dignity?

Have you ever had someone who gave a negative feedback who you later discovered was right?

FWIW this is purely speculative and for discussion purposes...follow up with your experiences
I've got two male friends that give me props for the girl I have now. She is very solid by female standards. Both of them are good at analyzing people and know me well. They wouldn't blow smoke up my azz.

To your face most people are positive and won't tell you the truth.

Never under estimate the thoughts of your family(if you are close and functional) and close friends regarding relationships. They know you well and aren't under the influence from hormones that skew your thinking.

The people you want to listen to are the ones who are good at figuring people out.
 
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