Kings_royalty gave you good advice, but I want to touch on something else that I noticed...
nvictor said:
I'm kinda stuck in this step. I must take it to the next step, cold-reading, kino, then kiss test.
I kinda did a double-take when I read this. You're actually thinking of a simple pick up in terms of steps! And I'm not gonna lie, some of the steps you're considering shouldn't even be steps, i.e. kino should just happen naturally; it's not supposed to be used "strategically". And btw, cold-reading is ludicrously cheesy and any girl with an IQ not bordering on the mentally challenged zone will think so, too.
Anyway, my point is that you seem to be putting WAY too much thought into all this stuff, and the problem with that is that it puts WAY too much emphasis on the whole interaction. Picking chicks up is only as hard as you make it for yourself. The next time you approach a girl, do me (and yourself) a favour and don't plan anything at all. Just walk up and start a conversation. If she's not receptive, don't sweat it - even with the ultimate preconcieved opener and conversation strategy, you'll encounter girls who aren't receptive to your approaches. If she is receptive, great. Keep chatting with her, and while you are, DON'T start strategizing somewhere in the back of your mind. Just let yourself become absorbed in the conversation. I tell you to do this because it's so much easier and works so much better. If you don't see what I mean, just think of the last time you were having a conversation with someone and they were really into it. Wasn't it a lot more enjoyable to talk to them? Exactly. And you know what? I'd be willing to bet my life that they weren't strategizing on how to "handle" you at all; they were just enjoying talking to you.
Anyway, after some time of talking/flirting (btw, there's no "magic" number for how long to talk with her - sometimes my number closes last no more than two minutes, sometimes they last for over an hour - it depends on the girl and the situation), just ask for her number. If she doesn't give it to you, no big deal; you just weeded out one of the ones not worth pursuing. If she does, fantastic. Give yourself a pat on the back and continue with your daily routine.
One final note: I suspect that you have recently started reading the DJ Bible. I suspect this because much of the content of the DJ Bible makes DJing a lot more complicated than it should be, which is also what you're doing. Don't get me wrong, you can learn some really beneficial and useful stuff from the DJB. However, you can also read some things that will just make the whole process frustrating. Here's my advice on how to use the DJ Bible...
1. First, read up on inner game material, i.e. stuff that will build your confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, etc. During this time, you should also focus on self-improvement in other areas as well. For example, if you don't already, you should start weight training to build muscle, do some cardio to shed unwanted bodyfat (eating properly is a big component of both of those things, btw). Also, if you don't have any hobbies that you really enjoy, you should find something that you can really sink your teeth into. Doing that can also expand your circle of friends, and may also lead you to meet some chicks
.
2. Next, read the material on this site that explains female psychology. You could also read the book
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus for additional insight.
SIDE NOTE: Do NOT read the conversation section of the DJB. It sucks. If you really want to read some material about conversation, check out the blogs on
www.charismaarts.com instead.
3. FINALLY, after you've built yourself into a confident, accomplished man with a fun and stimulating life, you might want to read up on some seduction material. But you know what? By this time, you may not even need it
. Strong inner game and a reasonable understanding of the opposite sex will bring you MUCH more success than crappy seduction techniques like "cold reading" ever will.
