Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When you offend a girl

PokerJohn94

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Ok, now I am back from date with my "GF", and I noticed, that the ball is now on her side, alldoagh it was different like week ago. I like to make out. I bet I like it more than she does, but that's not the case. But now I realize, that she sees that power, that she is the one, who will decide to kiss me or not, so she has this control.

Like today, she did this ingratiating thing, that she kept bitting me (my lip, cheeks, basically my face). At firs I like it, but then I got anoyed, and told her to stop. She promised me, and we kept making out, and that she did it again. And when I tried to repay her, she started to screaming (kind alike yelling), that you can't bite me! And tha I stopped to try biting her, and let her have it in her way, that I wont bite her (probably not the smartest move I made). Ok, so we continued to make out, and the bi*ch bites me again. She now says:"I swear, I won't do it again." I told her:"You say a lot of things and I don't believe/trust you, that that you wont bite me again. You say so much, so your word has lost all its value. You have no word."

After this, she got pissed, brake out of my hug, turned her face the other way, and sat down besides me, watching the other direction. *Now this is where you come in. :D How should I act now*

I did the worst thing, and like a little pushover, apologized (!!!!!!) and slowly took her hand, and turned her face and tried to kiss her. She rejected me. I tried it again, and so on and so forth, when she gets warmer, and we are making out, and the bi*ch bites my cheek again, perfectly knowing, that I hate the marks it leaves.

How should have I handle this situation?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Nino-Tk

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You seem more invested in this girl than she is in you, hence why you didn't assert boundaries that indicate which lines she can or not cross. I believe a lot of men are too paranoid with sh*t tests, but I believe this was one, the healthiest thing to do would have been to tell her straight up that if she continued doing that, you were gonna stop the make-out all together, or even better, leave

And you didn't 'offend' this girl, you, rather, let her offend you.
 
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