When you NC do all past indiscretions either on your part'hers have to be forgotten?

[pikachu_69]

If I get back with this girl I am currently NC'ing do I have to forget about any past indiscretions she did or I did?

I understand women only remember stuff which is important to them at the time so if she flakes on you that's a sign of low IL even though she'll swear it's because she 'forgot'.

I on the other hand took it personally and kept grilling her about it when I should have just NC'd her there and then. ACTIONS not WORDS. So true.

At this point is it possible to restart the dating process again from scratch?

 

[SchoolBoy]

You can never clean slate anything with anyone, what's done is done.

You can pretend to forget about her past flakes, but once she flakes again it'll come back to you.

It's easier to start from scratch with someone new than to try and "fix" it with someone who messed up.

 

[pikachu69]

You can never clean slate anything with anyone, what's done is done.

You can pretend to forget about her past flakes, but once she flakes again it'll come back to you.

It's easier to start from scratch with someone new than to try and "fix" it with someone who messed up.

Couldn't I just No Contact her instead of telling her off if she flakes again?

I read somewhere by doing NC it'll give her a bad feeling if she flakes so won't do it again in future. ACTIONS not WORDS. It makes sense.

Also, if she wants to keep the single life and doesn't want to get into a serious relationship cos she's going to be busy working a full time job and studying at the same time, she thought i'd be quite needy/clingy and leaving the country. None of which is true. Is this valid for her not to want to get involved with me?