When you look at a woman.. Do you look at her as a sex object first?

[RickTheToad]

When you look at a woman.. Do you look at her as a sex object first?

Just curious. Not going to lie, I still look at women as sex objects first. It's just how I'm wired I guess.

 

[tksniper]

At 31 I did. At 41 there’s a little more space. I’m more judgmental. I’m usually thinking about how old she is, whether or not she’s my type. And whether or not she’s the high maintenance type. The stuff I used to put up with at 31 I cannot imagine putting up with at 41.

But of course this is probably just a product of being more jaded, lowered testosterone, and perhaps having more options than I did at 31.

But honestly it has to be more hormonal than anything. In my 30’s there was no such thing as a needy and neurotic attractive woman. At 41, I can usually see it a mile away because I no longer have those rose colored goggles on amplified with raging hormones.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Recently, yes, I’ve been looking at women as sex objects.

Lately, I’ve been ****ing this woman so good that when I see a good-looking to average-looking rando on the street, I can’t help but imagine what she’d be like in this woman’s place.

Sometimes I get the ick because I imagine the sex being bad, lol.

 

[Gamisch]

I believe it's necessary to look at them like that.

Matter a fact, when you " serverly date down" ,the woman might resent you because women look at other women and constantly compare themselves to other women . So lets say the dreadful conversation comes up where she asks you: what do you like about me? And you say yeah, your character, kindness blahblah, she'll resent you. She won't be like" yeah I'm a tad overweight so I understand my looks/ sexual power isn't where it supposed to be". She WANTS to hear you think she is sexy and irresistible, and there will be NO space to mention seemingly logical improvement such as dressing better, losing weight ,changing her hair ect

I've learned after all the women I've slept with that the "fact" you can't keep your hands off her will be the most important aspect. When you say " it's okay you got plenty of other qualities " she'll (again) resent you and monkeybrance to a man who does look at her like a object of lust.

It's nature, female nature and male nature .

 

[justaroundthecorner]

At 31 I did. At 41 there’s a little more space. I’m more judgmental. I’m usually thinking about how old she is, whether or not she’s my type. And whether or not she’s the high maintenance type. The stuff I used to put up with at 31 I cannot imagine putting up with at 41.

But of course this is probably just a product of being more jaded, lowered testosterone, and perhaps having more options than I did at 31.

But honestly it has to be more hormonal than anything. In my 30’s there was no such thing as a needy and neurotic attractive woman. At 41, I can usually see it a mile away because I no longer have those rose colored goggles on amplified with raging hormones.

I can sign under this post.

 

[BaronOfHair]

If we define that term as thinking:

"What does she look like unclothed, and how vivacious a f-ck might she be?", upon first seeing her... Yeah. Dunno why this continues to be controversial to say out loud

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Rick,
On meeting a Female the instinctive Male urge is to look first at her breasts then her eyes....It's Primevally triggered unless conditioned otherwise...Makes sense,a females body signals its fertility by monthly swelling of the nvipples,if she fancies you her pupils will dilate.

 

[Vanderdonck]

I evaluate physical traits at first glance, really in both sexes but from an attractiveness standpoint in women yes. That doesn't mean women are "objects" to me however and it doesn't mean I want to fukk them just from looking at them. A woman's physical attractiveness will rise or fall in large part based on her personality and disposition. Her body is just a starting point. Maybe that just comes from experience dealing with baddies who turned out to be awful people. She's going to have to prove she's more than a nice body because those are a dime a dozen.

 

[Mike32ct]

I believe it's necessary to look at them like that.

Matter a fact, when you " serverly date down" ,the woman might resent you because women look at other women and constantly compare themselves to other women . So lets say the dreadful conversation comes up where she asks you: what do you like about me? And you say yeah, your character, kindness blahblah, she'll resent you. She won't be like" yeah I'm a tad overweight so I understand my looks/ sexual power isn't where it supposed to be". She WANTS to hear you think she is sexy and irresistible, and there will be NO space to mention seemingly logical improvement such as dressing better, losing weight ,changing her hair ect

I've learned after all the women I've slept with that the "fact" you can't keep your hands off her will be the most important aspect. When you say " it's okay you got plenty of other qualities " she'll (again) resent you and monkeybrance to a man who does look at her like a object of lust.

It's nature, female nature and male nature .

Women often will preemptively dump a guy who is dating down. I tried dating a few I wasn’t really attracted to. Every time, they picked up on the low interest and dumped me first.

 

[Gamisch]

Women often will preemptively dump a guy who is dating down. I tried dating a few I wasn’t really attracted to. Every time, they picked up on the low interest and dumped me first.

Treu...

You have to go all in in. If you're half azzing she will pick up on it. Most women were somewhat hot at least once in their life.

Good point. It's a catch 22, the woman hates you for liking her and she is actually right about it aw well..praise to the few women who have the mental capacity to get honest criticism...

 

[BadBoy89]

When you look at a woman.. Do you look at her as a sex object first?

Loaded question.

It depends on how old she is. and the man’s situation.

I dont think many guys would look at 42 year old single mother as sex objects, but they will look at them for maid services; to cook and clean for them

Same guys would smash a 26 year old woman in 2 seconds.

Other guys who want a family would take their time with the 26 year old, work on her to build something.

Any man who is married and has kids, would look at any hot women under 30 as sex object, no questions asked.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Unfortunately, these days, I look at most women as boner killing nightmares.

 

[zekko]

When I look at women, I see them as beautiful children of God. Although IMO that includes being a sex object, if not for me than someone else maybe.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Yep

 

[The Duke]

I don't look at women exactly as a sex object(like damn I want to fuhk her) but I do find some hot and definitely check them out.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Basically it works when we get a girl we find attractrive enough to get us a boner while being emotionally bearable but at the same time not too hot.

In the first case they pick it and create drama or leave while in the second it's hard to hold frame or keep the **** tests under control and pass them.

Me personally, as a man that needs a lot of peace and just a little bit of sex here and there, I'm very sensitive toward high drama drama/high maintenance women and no matter how hot they are, the avoidance comes easy.

 

[DJ Novice]

Many men are willing to put up with all sorts of crazy for great p*ssy. Eventually it will tire you out but you do need a certain level of se*ual desire towards the woman you are dating.

If you don’t feel like smashing her on a regular basis you will start to look elsewhere no matter how great her personality or other traits are.

 

[zekko]

Me personally, as a man that needs a lot of peace and just a little bit of sex here and there, I'm very sensitive toward high drama drama/high maintenance women and no matter how hot they are, the avoidance comes easy.

Nothing kills attraction faster than a certain behavior, attitude, and hyperfeminist ideology.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

Basically it works when we get a girl we find attractrive enough to get us a boner while being emotionally bearable but at the same time not too hot.

In the first case they pick it and create drama or leave while in the second it's hard to hold frame or keep the **** tests under control and pass them.

Me personally, as a man that needs a lot of peace and just a little bit of sex here and there, I'm very sensitive toward high drama drama/high maintenance women and no matter how hot they are, the avoidance comes easy.

There's this incredibly good looking blonde (very feminine, petite features, bobcat haircut, slim, beautiful face) living in me neighbourhood. I have seen her giving tons (TONS) of bad behaviour towards her now former boyfriend that looked like pretty stable, normal guy. I have recently seen her with some new guy and I wonder how this will end because I get the feeling it will end sooner than later (I'd have never been able to bear amount of disrespect her former boyfriend took - she was making snarky comments to him in the presence of other people and walked with bi4tch-face all the time). I kind of wonder why the poosy is worth so much of emotional pain for some guys - if the girl makes you want to tell her to stfu all the time or leave you alone aside of having sex with her once or twice a week, then life with her will be miserable.

 

[Doug_Pounder]

Yeah, I'm not looking to discuss the spiritual philosophies of Jiddu Krishnamurti with women I've just met, I'm assessing her sexual attractiveness to me first.