When you know she likes you

[popsickle]

To cut to the chase, I've been going out now and then with a girl I'm attracted to but could never quite figure out what her IL was. I grew kind of frustrated at the situation and we recently attended a social event with some other common friends during which we both drank a bit and eventually confessed we like each other. So I suppose what I've been doing so far has been working and my instinct would be not to change a thing.
2 questions:
1. Should you change anything in your game once you know directly from the horse's mouth that she's interested?
2. She told me that while she likes me, she also recently broke up with her ex of a long time and basically that she's not fully over that yet. What would you do in this situation? Do you tell her you don't want to deal with this and would rather wait until she's over it before you progress any further or do you keep seeing her so that the new experiences you share replace the old memories?

What I've been doing is pretty classic push/pull, C&F and light/fun action dates.

 

[Glassguy]

Go out with her, make sure it's a fun date and let her forget about the ex and think about you more.

Not much more that you need to do. Let nature take its course.

 

[devilkingx2]

This is the result of inaction on a man's behalf. He cannot know where he truly stands with a woman until he makes some kind of a clear romantic/sexual move on her. He cannot figure that out through platonic interactions. This is not particular to just your girl, but of all women in general.

to be fair, some women make it really obvious when they like you

 

[popsickle]

This is the result of inaction on a man's behalf. He cannot know where he truly stands with a woman until he makes some kind of a clear romantic/sexual move on her. He cannot figure that out through platonic interactions. This is not particular to just your girl, but of all women in general.



Your situation isn't ideal, but you're a little far in now to be making any radical changes. It will just raise peculiarities more so than help.



She's telling you that you're giving her the LTR vibe and want to be serious right out of the gates. She's far from that right now. What you need to do is have a sh*t load of fun with her. Party, let the fun and drinks flow and then just kiss her. Focus on the right now and just having a good time, not on the what ifs and where it all could be going. Let her worry about the relationship stuff. She'll bring it up again when she feels it, which could be a while.

Thanks. That's pretty much how I played it and said we should just have fun and see what happens

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I find any time a girl mentions that she's "not quite over her ex" that's normally girl-code for setting me up for a cringey brick-wall rejection or a friendzoning at a later date if I try to escalate. So I'd take care with that personally.

A few months back I had this stunningly pretty girl I'd known about a year tell me she had a big crush on me, we danced, we had drinks, we hugged, we had a little kiss. All in the space of an hour.

Her friends were gushing that we were super cool together and I should sleep with her blah blah.

Well 2 hours later I was at her place and her demeanor totally cooled. She lost all interest and instead she was telling me how she thinks I'm hot but she's not over her ex yet etc. etc.

I really like Amante's advice here of just taking it easy and trying to have fun. But also just realise that she might be unpredictable and not even sure of what she wants until she gets over the old guy. Unpredictable girls are as liable to give you a metaphorical kick in the 'nads as they are to sleep with you, and you don't want to waste your time if that's the case.

 

[djthiago1]

The principles that got her are the principles that are gonna keep her. Don't change.

 

[derby1]

what you do is this.....what amante said every interaction with this woman should be to have FUN ...no relationship talk or future plans Let her do that..
Anytime she brings up the EX you dont even get involved in a convo over it, you take a mental note, and you WITHDRAW ATTENTION

because your a high value guy with loads of options and your as exciting as FCk to be around and if she doesnt like ya company thats a damn shame ...cause sharon and tracey do