"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When you hit your lowest point in life
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Infern0
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Realize the mistakes you made, then figure out why you made them.
I hit rock bottom July 22nd 2014, I will never forget the date, it was the date my bpd ex utterly broke me. I had a nervous breakdown and fell into a depression that lasted over 2 months, I truly felt i'd lost everything.
The only way out of there was to come to understand that I was responsible for the decisions I made that lead me there, and that there were underlying problems that caused me to make those bad decisions.
If you can do that, and you can learn that skill of how to "review" your choices and decisions, you'll never end up there again.
AllDay85
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"I GET KNOCKED OUT, BUT I GET UP AGAIN! YOU"RE NEVER GONNA KEEP ME DOWN" <-- Good song to play in your head when you feel regret/failure (Chumbawumba - Tubthumping)
Floydispink01
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
parkthebus
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Realise - the lowest point is a judgement you're making in your head. Get into meditation to try and shrink down that big ass ego that's dragging you down.
On your worst day the sun's still shining, birds, singing, children laughing, pretty girls walking by and u can still put on your trainers and go for a walk in the park. Failure is temporary - you've failed before and life went on. Fail enough times and you'll learn and start to succeed.
GS750
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Serenity
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The same goes for how I feel in life. If I feel down I try something and pay attention to the effect of what I do. If I feel better it worked and if not I try something else. Even though something worked I keep trying more things, before I know it I have a huge number of options that work and know what won't work.
I've worked on things before seeing it as impossible, but after putting in enough effort I have figured out a solution that satisfies me.
It's usually for me painful to do this, but if I don't I'll suffer for a lot longer. I trade long-term suffering for a more intense short-term burst of pain that passes rather quickly. Just like babies cry over something and in the next couple of minutes return to their happy usual selves. It's intense, but highly temporary.
Know why it happened and what can be done so you will not hit your lowerst point again. From this point the only way is back up.
Many sportsman, teams have failed before and have come back up, I'm into cricket and their are some world cup winners, finalists who trumiphed over the odds, even sportsman who had their named blacked out like Rossi before 82, only to emerge as the goldon boot and world cup winner, their are many great examples too.
What are your goals? Make something of yourself, know how far you've come in your life, how bad you want it, develop discipline, motivation, be with supportive people, soildier on. Partake in hobbies that you enjoy doing, go to the gym.
Good luck!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Lozboss
Master Don Juan
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall."
It takes time to pull yourself from the pit, but you do that day by day, focus on your daily goals, achieve them and you'll achieve your long term goals.
Set some things you want to achieve and a plan on how to do that day by day. Then it's the perseverance to carry that through.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
You either want to be happy or you don't. It's all up to you. The choice is yours to make.
If that means , after work you want to play games till your next work day then do just that. Sometimes you just need some lone time from the crazy and fast life.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
My girls (twins) were born beginning of December 2003. On January 2003 I was called back on active duty and sent to Afghanistan... where as far as I know... can't post what I did, but it was working with special operations forces from multiple nations. While there had some brushes with death, as might be expected. But truth is I've been through this BS before, I was in Mogadishu with TF Ranger, as well as with the French Armored Division as a liason in the 1st Gulf War, and also part of the invasion force during Operation Just Cause in Panama. So being in combat was not new to me.
What was new was a wife that spent her time fvcking any hard c0ck she could get her nasty ***** hands on while I was overseas. The other times I was in combat I was NOT married.
Coming back and learning that, as well as learning she ignored my children while she rode the c0ck carousel, was pretty fvck low...
How did I get over it????.... well, I just accepted the fact that ALL WOMEN were just like her.... they were all just a bunch of *****s that under the right set of circumstances would behave EXECTLY like she did. This was hard... because it meant that I would have to exept my Mother, sisters, and yes even my daughters would be just like their mother. Acceptance is liberating.... and it is the ONLY fvcking way that you can effectively deal with the TRUE nature of women. NEVER NEVER NEVER assume your girl is different, she isn't.