"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok guys,

Me again, im gona try to loose my vcard soon but I have a question when it comes to hitting on women. So, when you hit on women, the idea is to just throw it out there and not be attached to the outcome?

For example, at work..

I was talking to this chick and she was telling me that her and her husband's marriage is going down hill..

SO, out of nowhere, I threw at her "Well, then, I'll call you up sometime" in a kinda jokingly manner

Is that how you guys normally Hit on women? You throw it at them but in a jokingly, not so serious way?

Thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That's exactly how you want to talk to women.

Be funny and suggestive without being completely serious. Although the thought of having an affair of a married woman might be a little extreme, it still shows her you have sexual interest. By telling her in a joking manner, she's able to hold back from being angry about you 0utwardly hitting on her when she's married!

Don't tell yourself you're going to lose your vcard... high expectations are rarely met. Let things happen, and be confident. In your mind, you're not really a virgin. No one needs to know you are. There are plenty of men who have had sex plentiful times and still aren't good at at.
 

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Thanks.

Also, sometimes at work i'm not sure whether i get hit on but, I went to the deli section of the store to get some roast beef. I asked this lady who works there if I can have the "italian roast beef" one

and she said

lady: you should try italian women, I'm italian.. just joking
me: never had italian...
me: I hope they doesn't taste like the roast beef that I'll be eating.

So, usually, when i come across scenarios like this one, Does this mean I have options to:

A. Take it to the next level (next time we encounter each other)
B. Not do a thing about it but just be playful about it
 

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verysuave said:
Thanks.

Also, sometimes at work i'm not sure whether i get hit on but, I went to the deli section of the store to get some roast beef. I asked this lady who works there if I can have the "italian roast beef" one

and she said

lady: you should try italian women, I'm italian.. just joking
me: never had italian...
me: I hope they doesn't taste like the roast beef that I'll be eating.

So, usually, when i come across scenarios like this one, Does this mean I have options to:

A. Take it to the next level (next time we encounter each other)
B. Not do a thing about it but just be playful about it



Yeah, this whole thing girls add "JUST KIDDING" does it mean they are hitting or were they really kidding?
 

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So,

the Person A who got hit on now has the option to escalate things with the Person B who hit on her. And so, if they like each other, they'll just keep going back and forth at it until they become attracted to each other to the point where it becomes somewhat, serious?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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hmmm.. not so sure about that roastbeef statement. the idea's there but should it be in better construction? can't put my finger on that too.

just have fun. thats why its called flirting anyway.
 

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Babnik said:
Yeah, this whole thing girls add "JUST KIDDING" does it mean they are hitting or were they really kidding?
Yeah, I get that alot "just kidding"

When I hit on women, i never say "just kidding".. makes me sound like a wuss. Do you?
 
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