"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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For_F

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Delete her number as well? I do and don't depending on how interested I was in the woman. If I was really interested than I delete the number because it 'saves' me from maybe contacting her again when there's no point but I won't look at the number twice after I've nexted a woman who I was only interested in for a one nighter.

I know deleting the number shows lack of self control on my part and destroys the chance of hitting the woman up down the line but it works for me. A few times I had deleted the girl's number only for them to contact me a month or two or several months down the track. I didn't know who it was and they asked if I had deleted their number. Easy reply is my phone broke got a new one had to start contact list from scratch.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Boilermaker

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Do whatever works best for you.

If you feel that you will cave in and drunk-text her, delete the number by all means.

I do this sometimes, if I am mad, and if I have decided there's nothing I will do with her anymore.

In the beginning, it helps deleting the number. You don't have to provide an excuse either, if they ask you, you just say, I don't have your number.

That's it.
 

Who Dares Win

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Delete number for two reasons, being the first one to stop yourself to cave and call her again, which would boost her ego and destroy yours following her new rejection.

The second one is that is much more easy for you to forget about her once you do something real like deleting her number, you know that even if you want, you have no easy mean to contact her and that will make sure your brain delete her.

Also if you decided that you are no longer doing any attempt on her since it will lead to nowhere, what is the point anyway to have the number?

In case she contacts you, the number will not be known but you will know that she is one of the many you nexted cause they treated you like sh1t, so again you will simply delete it instead of caving and hurt yourself more.
 

TheWolfMan

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I agree, best thing to do is delete the number. This coming from a guy who is a habitual drunk-texter.
 

vatoloco

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I tell my Young Padawans to do it in order to avoid temptation. I still do it out of habit myself...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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FairShake

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Personally I've gotten several bangs off girls I nexted and I contacted a few months later.

If you have the willpower it will be beneficial to do so.

But know your own strengths and weaknesses. If you think you may have a moment of weakness in a couple weeks then by all means delete it and wait for her to call.
 
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