"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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When you get totally ratholed by a woman...

itishe

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Last night I was having a small get together with some friends and I invited the Japanese girl I've met recently (we've been on a date, flirty texting, etc.). I told her to bring some cute friends and she said she would, blah blah blah.

So fast forward to when I have a few pals here playing beer pong she calls me up and tells me she is on her way and I can hear dudes talking in the background. This got me a little worried as I was hoping it would be a chill atmosphere with the possibility of getting some tail.

Finally, she arrives at my apartment and I go to let her in. When I get there my jaw drops in amazement. She brought EIGHT GUYS (who besides two turned out to be huge douche bags) and TWO OTHER GIRLS! WTF! Not to mention that all three, even the girl who has been flirting with me and went on a date with, have boyfriends

To top this off, they only bring two beers to the party and are constantly nagging on me and my friends to get drinks (one even had the audacity to tell me I made him a weak mixy). After an hour and the feeling that they were becoming less and less welcomed they left.

My first instinct was to let this blow over and just ignore her for the remainder of her time in the States but I'm generally pissed off. Is a text such as, "Hey thanks for bringing 8 guys over and no booze, appreciate it!" in order? I don't give a **** if it's DJ or not, this is a respect issue.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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mothballs

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Take the high road and just drop all contact with her. She's not worth wasting a text on... even if you have unlimited texting.
 

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Its your own fault for not specifying the gender of her 'cute friends!'

Just kidding, thats lame as fvck. Say whatever the hell you want to her. It makes no difference. I would save it till she tries to contact you. Dont make the first move, or you end up the bad guy somehow.
 

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mothballs said:
Take the high road and just drop all contact with her. She's not worth wasting a text on... even if you have unlimited texting.
lol nice and simple, good reply.

Would a real man be wasting his time posting on this forum asking whether he should send a reply bashing this japanese girl? NOO! a real man has more important things to worry about and doesn't get involved in little hissy fits like this. Be an adult, get over it, and do the manly thing and erase her # from your cell. and don't contact her again.
 

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Damn that's bad ****. You know the drill.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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itishe

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I know, "ignoring her" and "being the better man" are DJ like, but god damn this pisses me off. I want to call her out on it.
 

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itishe said:
I know, "ignoring her" and "being the better man" are DJ like, but god damn this pisses me off. I want to call her out on it.
You barely know her... if you send her some pissed off message you're just admitting to a weakness of immaturity. It's really the principle of the thing... showing her that she effected your emotions will only hurt your inner game.
 

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itishe said:
I know, "ignoring her" and "being the better man" are DJ like, but god damn this pisses me off. I want to call her out on it.
In my opinion-- I would totally call her out on it. Girls know that they aren't supposed to bring guys along with them when they get invited to a party...let alone 8!

I find that when people say things like "take the high road", it really means that they want to avoid confrontation even if it means they look like a chump. "Being the better man" is code for being a doormat. I say, fvck that! Call her and ask her WTF she was thinking and why she brought a bunch of poor losers who didn't bring any alcohol with them. If she thought that it was a good idea, I would just tell her to never call you again.

Standing up for yourself is never bad, regardless of what you have been told.
 

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mothballs said:
You barely know her... if you send her some pissed off message you're just admitting to a weakness of immaturity. It's really the principle of the thing... showing her that she effected your emotions will only hurt your inner game.
You gotta understand it's not going to be a text that says, "HEY F U YOU STUPID BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH"

I'm just gonna keep it short and sweet. "Hey thanks for bringing over 8 guys and 2 beers the other night, appreciate it!"
 

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1) "Hey thanks for bringing over 8 guys and 2 beers the other night, appreciate it!"

Translation: Thanks for bringing 8 guys to impede on my game. I'm very insecure and I told you to bring girls because I want a ticket for free sex, either with you or with your hot friends. I don't want to work for it since I don't have much game to get them on my own.

2) "Hi XXX, it kind of caught me by surprise you brought so many people last night, I was just expecting it to be you and 2 other friends. But I hope you guys had fun and perhaps I could take you for lunch tomorrow?"


Translation: Call her out but don't make it important, change the subject.

It all depends how SMART you are in handling it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You're already a big loser for allowing 8 guys gate-crash your party just because you were desperate for some pvssy. Why the hell did you let them in??? Don't send the text, it'll just be too much of a good laugh for them.
 
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