When you aren't -that- interested...

[thirdtimescharm]

Last Thursday I went to a local bar alone for a burger and a beer. During the course of the evening, I ended up meeting a group; a brother and sister along with a male and female friend (#1) of theirs. The brother and the sister both ended up trying to gauge my IL in their female friend. I wasn't really interested in her that way, but she seemed nice enough, plus they all live in my neighborhood. As things played out, it turned out that the friend lived in the same direction as I did and we ended up walking home together. When we got to her place, I played the gentleman and asked if she might like to get a drink sometime, and we exchanged numbers.

Friday, I had a first meeting with a woman (#2) I had met online, which quickly became a second rendezvous and subsequent sleepover. IL is very high for both of us and we already have plans to meet up again this Friday.

I'm not interested in #1 that much, but could see her being a neighborhood friend. Should I call her? Message her? How do I get her in to my frame here, considering she and her friends were all likely considering me date material? I really don't want her as a plate at this point either...I'm just too busy to add more. I have another woman who I have seen twice also in this mix, and likely want her on the bench or off the team as well.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear 3XCharm,
Bit like you myself just now....good though isn't it?....If you are having problems slotting her in now then it won't get better....Funny thing is as you push them away they get keener....I suppose I would take her out for a little fling,the first time with a Newbie is usually very exciting,then side line her...it's quite surprising how quickly a glut of Women can just slip through your hands like dust.... a few numbers in the Black Book are always useful.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

Agreed, it is very good.

#2 just left my place about two hours ago after a ridiculously fun night/morning/day. I had some texts with #1 the day after my post, just to keep the avenue open but making no effort to get together. Just keeping her thinking about me.

No question my mojo is sky high. The "book" says I should be out at this moment and getting more numbers, but I've gone through enough of these up/down cycles to know that no matter what happens, there are -always- more women. I'm fine with that, and I need the downtime occasionally to recharge and refocus on myself.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear 3XCharm,
Great story.With only two Ladies you are just finding your Sea Legs....Think how good you felt on leaving your place,then keep it within recall,because there are often a few dry gullies to cross before you get a critical mass of potential dates.....never stop thrusting and probing for opportunities,because you always need a Primary source of affection,several secondary plates,and Girls constantly waiting their curtain call in the wings.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

Scaramouche, you are an inspiration to all the youngsters if you are still spinning the plates at age 67. Personally, I've found it difficult in practice to be sleeping with multiple women. I always like something about one in my queue more than the others, and if I let a woman go I never look back with regret. The current front runner is sensual, playful, attractive, and seems to be my equal when it comes to emotional intelligence and ability to reveal her vulnerabilities. That's not to say I couldn't see many younger and sexier women tomorrow that can pique my interest; but the times when the IL meter is pegged on both sides doesn't happen that often and sometimes you just have to roll with it.