"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When you’re told not to try, but do It anyway

tesla8520

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They advise against it.
They really tell you not to do it.
Don't start a relationship at work.

Yet, he moves for work, where in the meantime he becomes friends with the owner's daughter, no malice intended, really, and their friendship, after six months, turns into something more. It becomes a relationship, and they set themselves the goal of managing her hotel and restaurant. He becomes an incredibly famous chef, but remains a fairly upright person, loved by everyone.

This is what happens to very few people, but if they had never started this relationship, none of this would have happened.
No one here would ever put themselves in the position of "depending" on something, yet some see it as a challenge, and for some it works.
Look like when two people works on somethng togheter, that could last a lifetime

Genuinely interested on what do you think about this

Cannavacciuolo, now a renowned Michelin-starred chef and television personality, met Cinzia when he was working for her family at a restaurant/hotel on Lake Orta.

At first, they were simply colleagues and friends; only over time did their relationship develop into a lasting love story and a true professional partnership.

Together, they transformed Villa Crespi into an internationally renowned luxury hotel and restaurant (now also Michelin-starred).

Despite the difficulties and risks of combining work and romance, their relationship was a positive challenge that led to great results.
http://instagr.am/p/CzYmBBXIPrP/
Look like he found the right woman. And the right one has made possible for him.to become a high value man
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Search around hard enough, and you'll always find a handful of instances in which someone APPEARS* to have transcended the facts of life.... Out of a few million high school drop-outs, you'll perhaps find 1 Johnny Depp who was a TV star by his early 20s, and perhaps another Eddie Little(PBUH)who became an acclaimed novelist and journo, after spending the first 3 decades of his life as a tween runaway, junkie, and full-time criminal**. Believing oneself to be such an exception is almost always a delusion/wishful thinking


*We're all ignorant as to what's REALLY taking place in Cannavacciuolo's home, when the cameras ain't rolling... For all we know, dude's decided that he's actually gay, and is rolling around in the sheets with the cabana boy every night. While Cinzia has decided to stay in the marriage and put on a happy face in public for the sake of business, taken up Cannavacciuolo's half-brother subsequently


**Even EL paid a high price for the unconventional lifestyle he chose https://www.sfgate.com/bayarea/article/Eddie-Little-outlaw-novelist-of-L-A-2615222.php
 
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