When Women Leave "Gifts" Before Stepping Away

[Donisio]

I've been reflecting on my past interactions with some women, and something's clicked that I overlooked at the time.

In some cases, these chicks would start getting involved (dates, hookups, whatever) and things seemed fine. But right before they pulled away or distanced themselves, they'd "give" me something. Not always a literal gift, but stuff designed to linger in my mind or space.

One created a custom Spotify playlist full of "our" songs and shared it with me.

Another "forgot" her favorite earrings at my place after a night over.

A third straight-up gifted me a book she loved, saying it reminded her of me.

At the time, I brushed it off as sweet or absent-minded. But looking back, it feels... tactical.

Anyone else notice this pattern in their own ****? Feels like a low-key mind game.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Donisio,
Yes, receiving gifts early in a relationship has often happened to me a month or so in...Sometimes not too gentle indications of directions...I once received a Bicycle LOL.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I've been reflecting on my past interactions with some women, and something's clicked that I overlooked at the time.

In some cases, these chicks would start getting involved (dates, hookups, whatever) and things seemed fine. But right before they pulled away or distanced themselves, they'd "give" me something. Not always a literal gift, but stuff designed to linger in my mind or space.

One created a custom Spotify playlist full of "our" songs and shared it with me.

Another "forgot" her favorite earrings at my place after a night over.

A third straight-up gifted me a book she loved, saying it reminded her of me.

At the time, I brushed it off as sweet or absent-minded. But looking back, it feels... tactical.

Anyone else notice this pattern in their own ****? Feels like a low-key mind game.

Women communicate indirectly, especially in Anglo culture, where communication in general borders on passive-aggressive most of the time

What you describe above(Gals hinting around at something, rather than saying

outright)... That's less surprising than learning that the legions of Harvard and Yale law grads who've floated to the executive levels of The CIA, throughout THAT agency's history, were more unfit to be spymasters than Peter Dinklage was to play point guard for The Houston Spurs

 

[Solomon]

Anyone else notice this pattern in their own ****? Feels like a low-key mind game.

13-15 years ago I use to keep a "box" of women who would leave their underwear, bra's etc at my place. The box filled up pretty quickly. Guess what, 90% of the women never came back for their "stuff", Eventually, I threw the box away because it felt like a weird "trophy" case. Even recently in the last two months I've had women leave bras, panties and one even her reading glasses. . I reached out asking if she wanted it back no response. I don't keep the stuff and if they don't hear from them within a week or two I just throw it away, assuming they don't care

Sometimes it's not that deep some women just "Leave" things due to absent-mindedness

 

[zekko]

13-15 years ago I use to keep a "box" of women who would leave their underwear, bra's etc at my place. The box filled up pretty quickly. Guess what, 90% of the women never came back for their "stuff", Eventually, I threw the box away because it felt like a weird "trophy" case.

So the women come back and say "Hey, where's my bra?", and you hand them the box and tell them to pick out whichever one is theirs? That has to send a message.

 

[Solomon]

So the women come back and say "Hey, where's my bra?", and you hand them the box and tell them to pick out whichever one is theirs? That has to send a message.

Come on man, let's not be facsious. Any woman I dealt with, if she left her bras or panties and wanted it back, I would already have it laid out for her in my bedroom; no woman has ever seen the box when I had it.

 

[CornbreadFed]

They do this to every guy

 

[Divorced w 3]

Sometimes it's not that deep some women just "Leave" things due to absent-mindedness

facts, but you can still give them shyt about it

 

[holidayad_]

I've been reflecting on my past interactions with some women, and something's clicked that I overlooked at the time.

In some cases, these chicks would start getting involved (dates, hookups, whatever) and things seemed fine. But right before they pulled away or distanced themselves, they'd "give" me something. Not always a literal gift, but stuff designed to linger in my mind or space.

One created a custom Spotify playlist full of "our" songs and shared it with me.

Another "forgot" her favorite earrings at my place after a night over.

A third straight-up gifted me a book she loved, saying it reminded her of me.

At the time, I brushed it off as sweet or absent-minded. But looking back, it feels... tactical.

Anyone else notice this pattern in their own ****? Feels like a low-key mind game.

I think it's their way of saying goodbye and being in control of the game. It's a move.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I think it's their way of saying goodbye and being in control of the game. It's a move.

What exactly are they in control of by leaving something that you could simply throw out before whomever else comes over?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Come on man, let's not be facsious. Any woman I dealt with, if she left her bras or panties and wanted it back, I would already have it laid out for her in my bedroom; no woman has ever seen the box when I had it.

I was on a zoom a few years ago with a few women from a divorce support group when I was trying to get my head on straight (before I met this place). I left the phone on the floor for a minute to hit the bathroom. There were panties under the bed. Totally didn’t even know they were down there. Chicks not only pointed them out but they were having a good laugh about it. I guess what I am saying is, women are always indirectly turned on when a man is adept at displaying his desirability to other women.

 

[SW15]

women are always indirectly turned on when a man is adept at displaying his desirability to other women.

Yes, this is true.

Sometimes it's not that deep some women just "Leave" things due to absent-mindedness

I have seen this happen with me.

 

[Scaramouche]

A Fox marks out "Territory"by leaving Scats on prominent stones...Many of your experiences are atavistic,deliberate or Subliminal evidence of a similar intention in a higher Mammal.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Not really. I only notice a step back when something else is going on, like after sex, if the relationship starts to get boring, they feel they know me too well, things stop escalating, or I slack off and stop putting in effort.

As for gifts or little items, I usually just get stuff for my birthday or holidays. Sometimes I get offered coffee or food when we meet up, but that’s about it. To me, that just shows they still want to see me and do something nice, not that they’re plotting a pull-away.

Honestly, you might be overthinking the earring thing. People forget stuff all the time. I’ve left more water bottles in women’s cars than I can count because I was too busy saying goodbye and thinking about where I had to be next. You might be fantasizing and making movies in your head.

 

[Donisio]

Honestly, you might be overthinking the earring thing. People forget stuff all the time. I’ve left more water bottles in women’s cars than I can count because I was too busy saying goodbye and thinking about where I had to be next. You might be fantasizing and making movies in your head.

Hahaha. Yeah.

What got me thinking was when those three chicks I mentioned in the OP all showed the same behavior by cooling off on the thing we had going on.