When Women Doth Protest Too Much

[Cheeks]

Regardless of whether it's wise to call women out on their bull****, I'm curious as to how you might interpret their reactions when you do.

I've come to the realization that women hate the truth, and hate to be confronted with it.

Before I went no contact with my ex, I calmly explained to her that I wasn't going to be doing her any favors because she had branch swung behind my back weeks before the relationship ended. I told her she had used me for comfort and stability until she had her new guy firmly in her grasp. I said this all without anger or jealousy.

My god, I unleashed the beast. I mean I had never seen this side of her before; throwing **** around her apartment, screaming, slamming doors, and finally telling me to "GET THE **** OUT, YOU ARE DEAD TO ME, I NEVER WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN"!

I was like, damn. It really took me by surprise. I mean she ended it, she's done with me, so why such a heated response?

I'm thinking one of two things:

1) She really wants to push things forward with her new boy (who is AFC, buys her flowers, paints her pictures, all of this BEFORE sex) and wants me completely out of the picture.

2) I unmasked her bull**** rationalizations for the break up and exposed her to the truth, causing her to react in an extremely unstable manner.

I've been on womens' bad side before, but I've never really had one rip**** pissed at me like this.

What to take from this: women despise the truth, and if you confront them with it, they will hate you.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Your summary is correct. They live in a fantasy world and any collision of their illusion with reality causes an explosive reaction because they cannot, under any circumstances, take responsibility for themselves and their actions.

Subconsciously in their minds, to do so would be to dis-integrate, to self-destruct. They will do anything under the sun to avoid feeling guilt.

You shone a light on her darkness, and awoke the very pit of hell. We should all be doing this. If we had the guts to do so, the world would change.

Her firestorm was nothing more than a tactic to deflect attention away from her own culpability. Just like those "flash-bangs" the narcs throw into a window to distract the suspect.

However, why are you speculating that "she wants you completely out of the picture"? Why isn't it imperitive for you to take yourself completely out of the picture? Perhaps I'm misunderstanding you.

I'm sure you know now that you dodged a bullet with this nut job. Keep on looking. I would say that only 1 to 2 percent of women have a capacity for some degree of personal responsibility, so the pickins are pretty slim.

 

[bigneil]

As Louis and Copeland said (and I confirmed): if you want to tell her off then by all means do it, but don't think it will lead to sex. Remember your goal.

That said, every man has a breaking point. Sometimes we just react in an explosive way, the same way we would if some person repeatedly annoyed us in traffic. If we don't then the'll think we're spineless anyway.

However, in hindsight, we may wish we focused more on the end goal (while secretly replacing her and phasing her out), especially when we realize that their interest level went down as a result of our reaction/response.

Remember to display apathy, not hate which is simply love negated.