"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What do you guys think of this. A girl you're dating seems really into you at first, then just goes cold out of nowhere.. And eventually you break contact. A month passes of no contact and she hits you up again with the whole "Hey how are you doing?" A conversation develops and then she says she's been thinking about you and asks to see you again.

This just happened to me tonight. A girl went cold on me a little more than a month ago, completely broke contact with her cause she flipped out on me over some lame sh1t and I sorta overreacted and insulted her pretty badly. Now she wants to see me again.

This has happened to me before and the girls usually just flake, but I'm thinking maybe I can salvage a pump n dump out of this situation yet remain friendly after. This girl was REALLY into me when we first met. Anyone else been in this position before?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just casually talk to her but don't put a whole lot of effort is what I'd do, maybe randomly ask her to hang out, get her attracted, do whatever leave it at that. Most women aren't anything more than a short term ordeal.
 
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Personally I love those situations. Especially if you're just looking for a pump n dump. This is where you can experiment. She's your lab. Push the boundaries. Escalate everything during your 'pump.' You got nothing to lose, right? I'm talking dirty talk, emotion talk, teasing, variations... basically being a complete freak. Funny thing is, whenever I do all of this they fall in love. It's great.

HER: "I've never had done anything like that. You're amazing."
HER: "You f#*ked me stupid."

This is when your text messages increase to the 10th power. So make sure you have the unlimited plan.
 
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Borknagar said:
Just casually talk to her but don't put a whole lot of effort is what I'd do, maybe randomly ask her to hang out, get her attracted, do whatever leave it at that. Most women aren't anything more than a short term ordeal.
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Basically what Borknagar said.

Don't invest a lot in her. But be semi-friendly. I've gotten a couple of lays out of situations like this. But usually nothing long-term.
 
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Do you guys think I should try and go all the way or at least kiss close/makeout next time I chill with her? Or do you think I should just subtly build attraction and at the end of the date just be like "Ok, see ya later (hug)"?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do you guys think I should try and go all the way or at least kiss close/makeout next time I chill with her? Or do you think I should just subtly build attraction and at the end of the date just be like "Ok, see ya later (hug)"?
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I don't think you need to plan it out like that. Just hang out with her and feel it out. You can instinctively tell if things are gonna go down the path of sex.

My most recent situation like this was with some red head I dated last winter. We lost touch. Then I bumped into her this summer while she was jogging near my apt. She mentioned something about "Catching up.", so I set it up.

We caught up for some drinks. Then more drinks. Then some kino. Then I told her, "My air conditioning sucks. I'm definitely crashing at your place tonight." And from there, the pants came off.

Just "catch up" with her. But don't put too much pressure on yourself about it
 
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Word! Thanks for the advice everyone.
 
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