"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When was the last time you REALLY felt happy/excited about something in your life?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hughman
Senior Don Juan
Had a great week where I controlled a frame against this stupid little ***** and her whinny friends because I had been upfront and a jerk with them. Then me and my buddy managed to open a 4-set. I got 2 numbers but looks like I've lucked out on them, but my buddy might get something from one of them. That's in my thread about me becoming an *******.
Then yesterday I was part of a flashmob. From there I got 5 numbers, and it looks like I can score with one (I knew her beforehand, and I'm getting mad IOIs from her) and I might get with another one. I'm still to try the other 3 numbers.
And from next week, it's my results day (which decides if I get to go to uni to become a doctor), then my birthday party, then my night out with my best buddies as a VIP at one of the best clubs in town.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
virginat40
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man oh man I felt good
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
when I took a 350 mile bike trip across Northeastern Pennsylvania. :rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
- comic_relief
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I've felt pockets of excitement, happiness, contentment here and there but its always fleeting, never lasting. Its here today, gone tomorrow.
Meet a girl, turns out she's a ho
thought career advancement was up ahead, false alarm
you get what I'm saying, nothing lasting has happened in a looooong time.
I just feel very stagnant. Not progressing.
I have a great opportunity being a part of a start up company which I will have some ownership stake in. What makes this so exciting is that it is 100% up to us, the engineers, to make this thing happen. I feel confident that we could be millionaires before age 35 if we do it right - but this is more than about the money. Its about doing something new and challenging outside the safety of a corporate desk job.
We start in one month, but I am already doing design work and literary research before the funding comes in and our start dates are 'official' . Reading journal papers and trying to re-learn thermal systems analysis and design reminds me that my engineer skills need a lot of polishing!
I am sure there will be the lows, the times I want to quit and run to the sanctuary of safety and comfort of a corporate job. Its easy to get excited over something like this, but I am well aware that there will be low points getting there. I signed up for the ride, not just the high points.st_99 said:
Before that though, I was living in a stale predictable existence that you mentioned. While its nice, it is very boring and it makes you wonder...is there more to life than just this?
Unbridled_Phoenix
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You need a salesman? Look no further!synergy1 said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.