HappyHarryHardon
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i have a date tomorrow. should i be texting her a reminder or on the actual day? i think she's working during the day until like one hour before our date.
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She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
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when to remind them of the date?
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Awesome thread! You just inspired me to bump another awesome thread, look it up on the Main Forum, it'll be called "What should a DJ eat for breakfast? Help."
That being said, just send a quick reminded, nothing gay or desperate but being a man should be about reminding your women. It's useful in this crazy day and age of vehement flakiness. but I guess some could argue if she really liked you she wouldn't need a reminded.
To that I would counter, you sir have just not experienced true disrespectful flakiness.
That being said, just send a quick reminded, nothing gay or desperate but being a man should be about reminding your women. It's useful in this crazy day and age of vehement flakiness. but I guess some could argue if she really liked you she wouldn't need a reminded.
To that I would counter, you sir have just not experienced true disrespectful flakiness.
HappyHarryHardon
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okay but i was actually wondering WHEN to remind them. a day before or on the day before the date?
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You shouldn't ever need to remind them.
They should be too busy with thoughts of what naughty pleasures you're going to provide them to ever forget.
They should be too busy with thoughts of what naughty pleasures you're going to provide them to ever forget.
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i know, but i am walking there which is 30 mins away and im going to be early... just don't wanna do all that for nothing if she doesn't come. i'm pretty sure she will because it was her idea. i just don't wanna waste my time thats all.
i remember my ex was the one always texting and calling to remind me, heh.
i remember my ex was the one always texting and calling to remind me, heh.
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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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KarmaSutra said:
+1 rep.
I agree with Karma's response.
Why would you need to remind her of the date? If your approach made so little of an impression on her that you need to remind her to show up to see you,you gonna have a heck of a time trying to keep her interest level raised.
You said the date was her idea. So you mean you have to remind her of her own idea???
If your approach created enough chemistry/attraction in her,you wouldn't have to remind her,she'd be LOOKING FORWARD to seeing you.
If you still want to remind her anyway,I'd CALL HER (not text) at a time when you know she'll be home and free to talk and flirt a little. Ask her what she's going to be wearing FOR YOU.
Phrase it like this,"So,what are you going to be wearing for me tommorrow,something nice and sexy,right?"
There,did you see that? You asked her what she's going to be wearing for you TOMMORROW. That statement itself reminds her about the date.
That way you can remind her about the date while not looking needy or insecure because the subject of the remark is her clothing,not the date itself.
Again,if you flirt,tease,and play around a little with her PRIOR to making that statement,you'll stir up a little chemistry in her that'll compell her to show up anyway,and that's what you want.
You want her to show up for the date because she WANTS TO SEE YOU,not because you didn't let it slip her mind.
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yeah, i see your point. she already sounded very interested as she kept suggesting things for the date and where to meet. i didn't end up reminding her. i figure she will text or call me tomorrow on lunch break or something. i might use that line.
are you sure that girls (even the nice ones) don't think that line is a little too... ****y and over confident? i've seen some girls say they hate things like that. guys trying to be too ****y. i might be wrong. also it just doesn't feel like something i would ever say lol. i usually just use kino to show my affection. theres no guarantee she would like that comment is there? she might suddenly think im a **** for saying that.
by the way, she did tell me she wants a relationship when we first met. she's looking for a man to settle with so we are trying to see what happens between us. starting tomorrow night.
are you sure that girls (even the nice ones) don't think that line is a little too... ****y and over confident? i've seen some girls say they hate things like that. guys trying to be too ****y. i might be wrong. also it just doesn't feel like something i would ever say lol. i usually just use kino to show my affection. theres no guarantee she would like that comment is there? she might suddenly think im a **** for saying that.
by the way, she did tell me she wants a relationship when we first met. she's looking for a man to settle with so we are trying to see what happens between us. starting tomorrow night.
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****y and over confident? Dude,all you did was ask a question.HappyHarryHardon said:
You think a girl would be offended at a guy finding her attractive? At finding her sexy in something type of clothing she wore?
You want to date her,right? Are hoping for a romantic and eventually a sexual relationship with her. Well if making a remark about her wearing something "sexy" offends her,what makes you think she'll enter a "sexual" relationship with you?
Trust me dude,that type of remark WILL NOT offend her. And if it does,she's not the type of girl you want to be with anyway.
Women put GREAT DETAIL into their appearances. She'd probably be more offended if YOU DIDN'T NOTICE/COMMENT ON her appearance than if you said something like I suggested.
You don't have to say that if you don't want to. I was just giving you a way to remind her about the date WITHOUT reminding her directly so you'll avoid looking needy.
But no man,she wouldn't be offended by that.
And I bet you these same girls who complain about these so-called "****y guys" end up sleeping with/dating them.HappyHarryHardon said:
Then simply don't say it.HappyHarryHardon said:
If you have all this worry,anxiety,and sweaty palms about making such a simple remark,you don't need to say it,but you need to say SOMETHING to create some attraction in her.
Well whatever you do,DON'T AGREE to getting into a relationship with her. If you do simply because of her telling you she wanted a relationship,you'll remove all challenge.HappyHarryHardon said:
So if she brings up the relationship thing again,just tell her you like to get to know girls first BEFORE getting in relationships with them.
That'll show her that you don't easily fall into relationships,and it'll take some effort on HER PART to get you to commit,and thus,keep her interested.
Good luck on the date.
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thanks for the info pal... yeah i don't plan on getting into any relationship with her until i know her more. that's including any girl - i will be commenting on how she looks tomorrow for sure. when i see her i will just simply say "you look really good!" or something like that 
i'll let you know what happens.
i'll let you know what happens.
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HappyHarryHardon said:
Let me ask you something. When you had her right there in front of you, why didn't take her for drinks then?
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Take Control Of The Date
One of the underlying philosophies of the PUA/Don Juan is seizing the day and being a man of decision and action. According to Mystery, one of the things that attracts a woman to a man is confidence. Confidence is displayed by demonstrating your ability to make concrete and lucid decisions.
One of the problems you newbies are encountering is you're over analyzing this "date thing." First things, first. You guys, whenever possible, should be trying to bounce your target to a nearby comfort building venue while you have her right there in front of you. When you're going about you're daily business, you have to ask yourself this question, "If were to meet a chick right now, where would I bounce her to?" You need to log these places into your memory or write them down. Do recon on these places if possible.
What made me a firm believer in "the model", was when I was in a club one night (and long story, short,) http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthr...=177649&page=2 entitled December, 2007 and I told this chick to buy me a drink and she did it. You guys have to believe in your game and believe in what your doing. It isn't about the date venue or incorporating her thoughts into the decision making process. It's about being on some "Charile Sheen Winning Sh*t," and having her believing that her life will improve be aligning herself with you. The venue doesn't matter because in the end, it's about spending time with this mysterious and compelling guy she just met, who doesn't take sh*t from her.
If you go through my posts, (with the exception of one,) you'll notice two things. I never ask a chick where she wants to go and I never set aside time at a future date to met a broad. I'm trying to hook up right then and there, when the irons are hot and I can capitalize on the good feelings I'm supplying her with. Remember, women are creatures of emotion, when you call her to meet you at the mall, to help you shop for some jeans, she may thinks it's serendipity, but you've had this sh*t planned out all week.
This philosophy also extends itself with that damn texting. If you kick it right, refuse to answer the text, and explain to her that in order to communicate with you, she'll have to call you. Guess what? She'll effin call you or take your call. Then you become that unique guy in her peer group that is the only person she speaks to on the phone. This is frame control like a muthf*cka.
In closing, you have to be willing to trust yourself and be willing to fail, because failure leads to success. You're going to eff up. Just accept it and move. The newbies are in great desire to see instant results. Establishing control, making decisions, and telling a chick what to do is one of the few areas of this game where you will see instant results. There's a lot power in telling a chick what to do? A lot of times if you tell a woman to do something, she'll do it, no questions asked. The thing is, you have to have the balls to tell her to do what ever it is your asking.
One of the underlying philosophies of the PUA/Don Juan is seizing the day and being a man of decision and action. According to Mystery, one of the things that attracts a woman to a man is confidence. Confidence is displayed by demonstrating your ability to make concrete and lucid decisions.
One of the problems you newbies are encountering is you're over analyzing this "date thing." First things, first. You guys, whenever possible, should be trying to bounce your target to a nearby comfort building venue while you have her right there in front of you. When you're going about you're daily business, you have to ask yourself this question, "If were to meet a chick right now, where would I bounce her to?" You need to log these places into your memory or write them down. Do recon on these places if possible.
What made me a firm believer in "the model", was when I was in a club one night (and long story, short,) http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthr...=177649&page=2 entitled December, 2007 and I told this chick to buy me a drink and she did it. You guys have to believe in your game and believe in what your doing. It isn't about the date venue or incorporating her thoughts into the decision making process. It's about being on some "Charile Sheen Winning Sh*t," and having her believing that her life will improve be aligning herself with you. The venue doesn't matter because in the end, it's about spending time with this mysterious and compelling guy she just met, who doesn't take sh*t from her.
If you go through my posts, (with the exception of one,) you'll notice two things. I never ask a chick where she wants to go and I never set aside time at a future date to met a broad. I'm trying to hook up right then and there, when the irons are hot and I can capitalize on the good feelings I'm supplying her with. Remember, women are creatures of emotion, when you call her to meet you at the mall, to help you shop for some jeans, she may thinks it's serendipity, but you've had this sh*t planned out all week.
This philosophy also extends itself with that damn texting. If you kick it right, refuse to answer the text, and explain to her that in order to communicate with you, she'll have to call you. Guess what? She'll effin call you or take your call. Then you become that unique guy in her peer group that is the only person she speaks to on the phone. This is frame control like a muthf*cka.
In closing, you have to be willing to trust yourself and be willing to fail, because failure leads to success. You're going to eff up. Just accept it and move. The newbies are in great desire to see instant results. Establishing control, making decisions, and telling a chick what to do is one of the few areas of this game where you will see instant results. There's a lot power in telling a chick what to do? A lot of times if you tell a woman to do something, she'll do it, no questions asked. The thing is, you have to have the balls to tell her to do what ever it is your asking.