when to contact?

[pete101]

met a HB.. went ok.. moderate interest level i guess.. could go either way 50/50.. would it make a difference when i contact her to increase her interest level?

usually i'd contact maybe 3 days after.. but i was thinking that if she expects that and i don't it might increase her interest level a bit if i i wait a couple of days.. does this work?

 

[moto]

your thinking too much. Just go ahead and call her a 2 days or 3 days after......see what happens.

How did you approach her or meet her?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I say just call her and set up a get together. If she's interested (even just a bit) she'd accept or at least give you a counter offer if she's more than just a little interested.

 

[Brians_600rr]

yeah man i say give it a couple days. and ur thinking WAY too much!! remember logic is the enemy!! lol and remember keep that convo to the point and short. good luck man

 

[Nexus Polaris]

I agree about the logic thing. I keep falling back into that overthinking mode, and it sabotages a lot of things. I'm so worried about when I'm supposed to do what that it all comes out unnatural and insecure. It almost always ends up costing me the girl.

Don't think. Just act. Over time you'll get a feel for what's the "right" thing to do.

 

[pete101]

yeah i been in situations with HBs before who were 50/50 after our first date.. every single time it turns out to be not in my favor but i still waited the 2-3 days.. i was thinking i'd do it a little different this time and wait a little longer in hope that she'd wonder why i hadn't called yet when she expected me to.. even if she was inclined to say no.

i just thought it might help increase her interest level a bit more so its more say 60/40 in my favor.. tbh i'm actually kinda just hoping she's gona contact me with some BS msg just saying hi.. so you don't think waiting a couple of extra days may help increase her interest level maybe slightly?

 

[pete101]

your thinking too much. Just go ahead and call her a 2 days or 3 days after......see what happens.

How did you approach her or meet her?

oops i shoulda made it clearer in my first msg.. i actually had a date with her.. and after guaging her interest i reckon it's only 50/50 either way now for a 2nd.

 

[Monkey]

Waiting for a couple of extra days only really works if shes completely cookoo over you - 85%+ IL

If its 50/50 or in other words her IL is around 50% then she won't really care if you ever call her again.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

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If its 50/50 or in other words her IL is around 50% then she won't really care if you ever call her again.

Especially if you wait and she loses interest during that time. At least if you are fresh in her mind there's a better chance of her going out with you again in order to definitively figure out if she's interested or not.

 

[hell695]

quit thinking so much and just call after a day or two