When to call this one

[ApparentlyFromMars]

When to call this one (UPDATED)

So yesterday I was at a party and I met this really great girl, we hit it right off and she was laughing at everything and I applied kino and all that. We were having a blast. Then we went out the whole party to a club and we ended up dancing etc the whole evening really grinding it up. She gave me her nr and she even typed in a nice smiley behind her name and smiled at me and we agreed that we should meet up and go out sometime... She was a bit weary though cause she didn't completely trust my motives cause I seemed too much of a player and devious But she really liked me so it's good.

Now there is a party tonight at our dormcollective which is nextdoors to hers (it's like a 50 metres walk...

I'm wondering if I should ask her to come or not, especially since two of our common mates that live literally nextdoor to her is most likely coming... This would then mean that I called her or texted her the day after I got the nr.

 

[nan3109]

"girl this is my sorry for...... two thousand four!!" - Ruben

 

[California Love]

2 parties in a row might spoil the fun.

 

[ApparentlyFromMars]

Yepp I thought it might but due to two common friends partying we ended up meeting anyways due to them. The moment I walked into the room she lit up like a candle and smiled so sweet. So the gang of us went out dancing etc. She said she really liked me and wanted to really get to know me and go out etc! She is so cute and sweet I would actually consider dating only her.

 

[Mav]

Originally posted by ApparentlyFromMars
She is so cute and sweet I would actually consider dating only her.

How can you say that when you don't even know her?

No matter how cute, sweet, rich, whatever a girl, I wouldn't even entertain the thought of solely dating her for at least a month, and more like two, for the following reasons;

• I want to keep my options open.
• Concentrating on a single woman in the early days is just bad and you risk showing her too much attention.
• If we're not "exclusive", I'm not going to be sitting around while she's seeing other people
• How would you even bring the subject up? If you tell her you want to be exclusive after seeing her only twice she's going to ditch you in record time!

Just chill, keep your options open and enjoy yourself.

Mav

 

[ApparentlyFromMars]

Notice the word consider I'm not actually going todo it, not yet atleast I like my freedom and my unattachment. Only attention she's gotten has been when we've been out dancing and nothing more. She won't receive a phonecall until 2-3 days in the week.

I've been loosely thinking lately on what would be good dates for universitypeople (20ish) todo so I need to come up with some good options for a first date if I decide I want to go out with her. Any suggestions are welcome.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

don't invite woman you just met to big parties because you may meet someone better there - a lot of women to choose from.

Do a fun activity that costs little money -- girls just want to be with a guy if they like him -- they don't care what you do or how much you spend but do something entertaining that you both enjoy.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Well I do agree he or anyone for that matter shouldn't normally invite girls to a big party BUT remember what he wrote... Common friends, her neighbours to be exact would be there. Inviting her would be preemtive because if he didn't (Did he?) and she came it would be awkward and strange.

 

[ApparentlyFromMars]

Ok as I said I met this girl two times out now and both times we danced alot and had fun. Like we were out dancing a bunch, and she came back from the toilett and danced with her neighbour and a slowsong came on and she said something to him and him to her and she just walked over to me and put her hands around me and danced the slowsong which we continued into several faster songs again. We practically danced together all the time, grinding, holding around eachother. She would hold around me, put her hands in my backpockets and put her head on my chest etc. She would put her forehead next to mine and nosesnuggle etc. She did not want to kiss though because according to her she wants to get to know me better and she asked me to call her etc. I see this somewhat maybe as a ****test (Which I atleast have no idea how to handle) but alot of my friends know this girl and everyone says I gotta be nice and treat her very nice cause she is a very sweet and good girl, don't care about what they say though.

I don't see how her IL can be anything than high. She even talked and asked about me from her roomies. Yesterday when we partied they had a party too down there they live too and they had been like "Maybe ApparentlyFromMars is coming down" and she had supposedly been all blushing and nervous and like "Nah don't believe ya" and she lit up the second I walked into the room. When we were queued for a club she was looking over at me all the time (I was ahead in line). She would try and glance between the people etc. So I'm judging her IL as very high maybe I'm off ....

Now she wanted to go out with me and told me to phone or txt her. Which I haven't done yet. I thought I might call tomorrow or tuesday, probably tuesday since i'm working all day tomorrow and will probably be tired.

What would be a good date? When should I call? How should I generally handle her...


Thanks in advance

ApparentlyFromMars!

 

[ApparentlyFromMars]

I would be very appreciative if someone could reply with some input/help on this one =)

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

I don't know about the goody goody girl label your friends gave her - she has her hands on your ass (wether they are inside pockets or not) -- don't sound too innocent or special to me -- anyway this is a easy lay -- get her to dance again but in private this time and put your hands in her pockets and whatever tickles your fancy!