Don Juans, You've had a first date. Both of you agreed you had a good time and were glad you went out. Do you wait for her to call or do you call her after a couple days? What if she brought up the subject of going out again during the first date? When you do talk do you bring up the subject of another date or do you leave that to call #3 a couple days later?
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
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When to call after the first date?
- Thread starter ARK
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
gimmeyofonenumba
Master Don Juan
I got the same question, lets say you 2 just met and wanna go grab a bite. How long after that, would you wait to call again for a real date?
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
It all depends on a variety of factors:
-her interest level in you
-your interest level in her
-did you have fun
-do you see potential for something
Usually if a girl has high interest in me I'll wait 2-3 days and set up another get together. If her interest was low, I leave it alone and let her do the work. If I didn't like her all that much I throw her number away...LOL
If you enjoy her company, wait a few days nothing less or more. You want to play the "game" but don't literally over play the game and shoot yourself in the foot.
PIMP
-her interest level in you
-your interest level in her
-did you have fun
-do you see potential for something
Usually if a girl has high interest in me I'll wait 2-3 days and set up another get together. If her interest was low, I leave it alone and let her do the work. If I didn't like her all that much I throw her number away...LOL
If you enjoy her company, wait a few days nothing less or more. You want to play the "game" but don't literally over play the game and shoot yourself in the foot.
PIMP
her interest level in you - She contacted me and gave me her number to get a hold of her. I called and set up the first date.
your interest level in her - Shes a woman, why wouldnt I be interested?
did you have fun - Yeah I did and she said she had fun as well, though we didnt get to see the movie since it was sold out. She brought up going to see the movie and getting ice cream next time.
do you see potential for something - Sure, shes a genuine fun loving girl.
My gut says call tonight and ask her about her weekend. Possibly bring up going to the movie. She starts a new job Tuesday so I could call to see how her day was that evening and bring up the 2nd date then. Either or kinda thing.
your interest level in her - Shes a woman, why wouldnt I be interested?
did you have fun - Yeah I did and she said she had fun as well, though we didnt get to see the movie since it was sold out. She brought up going to see the movie and getting ice cream next time.
do you see potential for something - Sure, shes a genuine fun loving girl.
My gut says call tonight and ask her about her weekend. Possibly bring up going to the movie. She starts a new job Tuesday so I could call to see how her day was that evening and bring up the 2nd date then. Either or kinda thing.
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For the most part it really depends. But if you start calling the very next night, you might end up calling every night or making plans whenever you get the chance. You have to have better things to do than just await the next date with this girl. The general rule is 2-3 OR MORE. I used to wait a whole week. Not just because I was playing the game, but because I was busy and had other stuff to do as well. She never lost interest and in fact, she started to really miss having fun with me which made it sweeter for her when I did call.
Don't call and just talk about the weekend and stuff. Only use the phone as a tool to setup the next date. You'll have more to talk about on the date and usually she'll be more excited if she hasn't spoken to you in a while. I kept my dates to 1-2 every week with a single girl. I used to hook a couple girls at once so it followed a routine pattern.
My advice is don't call, at least for another few nights. And when you do call, tell her you're free on X day and that you wanted to do X thing and you want her to come along. Simple and to the point.
Don't call and just talk about the weekend and stuff. Only use the phone as a tool to setup the next date. You'll have more to talk about on the date and usually she'll be more excited if she hasn't spoken to you in a while. I kept my dates to 1-2 every week with a single girl. I used to hook a couple girls at once so it followed a routine pattern.
My advice is don't call, at least for another few nights. And when you do call, tell her you're free on X day and that you wanted to do X thing and you want her to come along. Simple and to the point.
Well, my AFC got the best of me. After saying I would call her Sat. night and I didnt, I thought I should make good and call her tonight. Ended up leaving a message. "Didnt know if you would be home tonight or not, wanted to see how the wedding was that you went to. Also wanted to see when you would like to see the movie we missed. Tues. night, Wed. night, etc. Im out of town tomorrow (seeing Girl#1 
) but to let me know."
If she is interested Im sure she will call. At least it was still within the 2-day rule. heh.
) but to let me know."If she is interested Im sure she will call. At least it was still within the 2-day rule. heh.
themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
After a first date, I usually contact the person the next day excluding friday and saturday.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
don't do what the guy above this post says!
havent any of you read the dj bible? the answer to the question of when to call a girl after the first date should be in the dj bible. Read it you p****
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
havent any of you read the dj bible? the answer to the question of when to call a girl after the first date should be in the dj bible. Read it you p****
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.