"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When To Buy Her Drink?

Maximus Rex

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We all know that your not suppose to buy chicks drinks. As Leykis says, there's only two types of women that you buy drinks for. Ones that come into the spot with you and ones that are leaving the spot with you.

But suppose, you've kissed closed a broad. Is it now appropriate to buy her a drink? Or should it only be done if she's leaving the spot with you to go another venue as in the case of an insti-date or if your going back to her place for some f*cking and sucking?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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oprahjimfrey

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hmm. I am not a big fan of buying women drinks. Women love to boast about how they can go out and never have to buy a drink. Girls dont respect guys who buy them drinks.
 

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Nope. You come in with me, you leave with me, you drink with me.
Everyone else is a tag along, and thus, they pay for their own.
 

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I NEVER buy girls drinks... but I actually did buy a girl a drink a few weeks ago and we didn't come together or leave together... in fact she was married with a kid. But we had been hanging out the whole night almost, playing pool and just chatting it up, she was real fun. I bought her one as a friend.

There are rules.. but they can always be broken.


It comes down to this.. doing an act of kindness for someone you have respect for and vice versa is ok.

You mostly just trying to avoid being used by a girl at a bar, which happens at every bar every night.. don't be one of those guys.
 

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if u like a girl i think it's just good social graces to buy her a drink. like opening a door for her. guys who never buy a girl a drink, are cheap. isn't this common sense?

as for chicks who brag about never having to pay for a drink, don't date those skanks.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I do not buy-- dont care if they kissed me or not.. now after I got to second base and I can see things progressing to sex.. then I guess I would buy a drink to help lubricate the process
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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cosmo said:
if u like a girl i think it's just good social graces to buy her a drink. like opening a door for her. guys who never buy a girl a drink, are cheap. isn't this common sense?...
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:mad: "social graces"
 

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cosmo said:
if u like a girl i think it's just good social graces to buy her a drink. like opening a door for her. guys who never buy a girl a drink, are cheap. isn't this common sense?

as for chicks who brag about never having to pay for a drink, don't date those skanks.
How about laying your coat down on a puddle so she can sashay her ass over and not get her tootsies wet? So you have a fvcked up coat now, as long as she gives you some attention it's worth it?

Social graces are critically counter productive when interacting with women in a bar or club.
 

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The only time I buy a girl a drink is if I came there with her. As in, she's on my arm, and I know that after I get her this drink, she's not gonna disappear to find someother guy to buy her another one.

Other than that, the only time a girl will get a drink out of me, is if she's at my place, and I'm doing the pouring. Even then, it's bottom shelf stuff.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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