"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When this comes out of a girls mouth...

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I ran into a girl tonight that seems to be part of a similar situation I was in. She has been dating a guy for for a couple months but there is an issue. her ex boyfriend (which she seems to still have feelings for, even though she tries to convey she doesn't) is friends with the same friends she has. Whenever she is not with the guy she is dating she is with her friends and her are most often with him.

She still talks to him on the phone, my space etc. The guy she is dating is starting to get friustrated with the situation. He thinks something isn't right about it. He feel's she shouldn't be doing this.

When I asked her about it she said, "Well if I'm dating him and I decide to go back to my ex, then obviously the guy I'm dating wasn't the right guy for me. If he has a problem with me being around my ex he is insecure"

Now, when a girl says this is she in the right or is it bull****? Should she be putting herself in this situation? Is it fair to the new guy and the relationship? Is she truly giving the new relationship a chance?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What are you babbling about? I don't speak gibberish.
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OK sorry you feel that way proceed to a thread that speaks your language
 
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Yeah can you write it again properly, with proper paragraphs. I know it's not a long post but even i couldn't be arsed to make it to the end.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Reverse the roles for a second and it will make sense. For example, say they were colleagues at work. She (foolishly) dated a colleague, it didn't work out, and now they have to work together. The new boyfriend comes into the picture and starts whining that she has to work with her ex.

What, did you think that because they broke up she's going to drop all of her friends?
 
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Yeah can you write it again properly, with proper paragraphs. I know it's not a long post but even i couldn't be arsed to make it to the end.
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I ran into a girl tonight that seems to be part of a similar situation I was in. She has been dating a guy for for a couple months but there is an issue. her ex boyfriend (which she seems to still have feelings for, even though she tries to convey she doesn't) is friends with the same friends she has. Whenever she is not with the guy she is dating she is with her friends and her are most often with him.

She still talks to him on the phone, my space etc. The guy she is dating is starting to get friustrated with the situation. He thinks something isn't right about it. He feel's she shouldn't be doing this.

When I asked her about it she said, "Well if I'm dating him and I decide to go back to my ex, then obviously the guy I'm dating wasn't the right guy for me. If he has a problem with me being around my ex he is insecure"

Now, when a girl says this is she in the right or is it bull****? Should she be putting herself in this situation? Is it fair to the new guy and the relationship? Is she truly giving the new relationship a chance?
 
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What, did you think that because they broke up she's going to drop all of her friends?
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i realize this yet it still makes things complicated don't you think? he still trys to get her back and pulls on her heart strings to get her back. and does she realy need to be in contact with him outside of being with her friends?
 
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Well all these guys need to learn that you can never control a ho or slut.... Just focus on F'ing her for as long as possible and spend the rest of your time getting other women to F too... cause she is sure as hell doing other guys ....

COME ON GUYS STOP LOVING THESE WOMEN MORE THAN THEY LOVE YOU...
 
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Well all these guys need to learn that you can never control a ho or slut.... Just focus on F'ing her for as long as possible and spend the rest of your time getting other women to F too... cause she is sure as hell doing other guys ....

COME ON GUYS STOP LOVING THESE WOMEN MORE THAN THEY LOVE YOU...
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Interesting sounds like something Chris Rock said. that guy kills me....wait he's married now
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Haven't you learned that a lot of women say stuff to jusify their feelings instead of actually trying to make decisions in spite of them? Your friend is confortable as long as the new guy is taking her out while the ex is giving her love. I think she'll stay with the new guy as long as the ex will keep coming after her.
 
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Haven't you learned that a lot of women say stuff to jusify their feelings instead of actually trying to make decisions in spite of them?
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If your saying girls talk and make desisions with there feelings in the moment and not logic I'm picking up what your putting down,

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Your friend is confortable as long as the new guy is taking her out while the ex is giving her love. I think she'll stay with the new guy as long as the ex will keep coming after her.
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This is an interesting perspective because I thought maybe she was in a way using the new guy as as an emotional tampon while the ex that took her for granted in the past pursues her and plays with her emotinons. but you could be right. maybe the new guy is just not playing his cards right?
 
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sosilky said:
This is an interesting perspective because I thought maybe she was in a way using the new guy as as an emotional tampon while the ex that took her for granted in the past pursues her and plays with her emotinons. but you could be right. maybe the new guy is just not playing his cards right?
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Nah your giving her too much credit when she is just a typical ho/slut getting what she wants when she want and from whom she wants, with no regard for the feelings of others involved....
 
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When I asked her about it she said, "Well if I'm dating him and I decide to go back to my ex, then obviously the guy I'm dating wasn't the right guy for me. If he has a problem with me being around my ex he is insecure"
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It's all in the presentation.

If he whines about it and does nothing, he probably is insecure.

A girl i'm currently dating had a 'bad' breakup with a guy a few months ago that she tried to whine to me a little about. I told her not to go around him or talk to him because I don't deal with that drama, and it's disrespectful to our relationship and would demonstrate to me she's not ready for a a new adult relationship so i would leave. She knows I'd walk if she kept that door open with him. I know damn well she's not viewing it as "insecurity" because of the way i framed it. She actually told me the other day that she had to contact him to get some paper or another from him for work. She fears me finding out so she was open about it.

There is no such thing as "the right guy for me." Female jibberish concerning fate.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It's all in the presentation.

If he whines about it and does nothing, he probably is insecure.

A girl i'm currently dating had a 'bad' breakup with a guy a few months ago that she tried to whine to me a little about. I told her not to go around him or talk to him because I don't deal with that drama, and it's disrespectful to our relationship and would demonstrate to me she's not ready for a a new adult relationship so i would leave. She knows I'd walk if she kept that door open with him. I know damn well she's not viewing it as "insecurity" because of the way i framed it. She actually told me the other day that she had to contact him to get some paper or another from him for work. She fears me finding out so she was open about it.

There is no such thing as "the right guy for me." Female jibberish concerning fate.
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what about the fact that the ex is friends with her friends and they are always together? Does he tell her she has to drop her friends? Is that realistic?
 
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I ran into a girl tonight that seems to be part of a similar situation I was in. She has been dating a GUY for for a couple months but there is an issue.
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sorry, i just thought that was funny.
 
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When I asked her about it she said, "Well if I'm dating him and I decide to go back to my ex, then obviously the guy I'm dating wasn't the right guy for me. If he has a problem with me being around my ex he is insecure"
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Personally, if I'm just dating a woman and she visits her ex, it's no biggie. If I'm in a LTR with her and she's visiting her ex, then there's a problem. Out of respect for the woman, I would purge all the other women I'm dating and I don't keep ex's around as friends. I would expect her to do the same. In this situation, it's not about insecurity, it's about respect.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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