"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When they come back ..

Pogba

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Ex called me about 4 times now , I put her on auto reject so I don't hear the calls and she just hears the answering machine. She called my grandma and asked her if my phone is still working because she msgs and calls and I don't respond.
All this after I gave up talking to her because she has a new boyfriend and wanted to string me along. We kept talking and eventually replies were spaced out , I set a date and she cancelled last minute ...i didn't even reply to that cancelation text I just blocked her.
Her friends started liking my pics and commenting on them.
What's her game now and how do I counter this ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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G_Govan

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You don't. Hold the line on no contact and move on.
 

GS750

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Maybe...it's not working out with "new guy" and you never know what you have until it's gone. Go for the meetup and then go for the bang. If she won't go for it, then reset the timer and go NC for a few months again.
 
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Pogba said:
Ex called me about 4 times now , I put her on auto reject so I don't hear the calls and she just hears the answering machine. She called my grandma and asked her if my phone is still working because she msgs and calls and I don't respond.
All this after I gave up talking to her because she has a new boyfriend and wanted to string me along. We kept talking and eventually replies were spaced out , I set a date and she cancelled last minute ...i didn't even reply to that cancelation text I just blocked her.
Her friends started liking my pics and commenting on them.
What's her game now and how do I counter this ?
Friends are liking pics because she is talking.

She might not have understood what she had till she lost it, she probably wants you back, but does she deserve you? Whose to say you won't fall into a similar pattern later?

I'd talk to her but not be too eager. Hit it if you can.
 

WanderingMan

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Pogba said:
how do I counter this ?
That all depends on one thing - what do you want?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I will repeat what I always says, its a ex, she is not your problem anymore, also you already gave her a chance, she failed, no reason to even care about her too many woman around to waste time on a ex.

plus it can be just her need to validation, sometimes woman I stoped talking hit me up randomly, the reason is jsut to feel better always complaining i'm not around or talking with her anymore or I disapear on her, I always say the same too busy, even when woman know where I normally go (gym) toss that around, so don't look too much into it, or even care, just keep doing what you are doing
 

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One day, do you want to marry a woman who viewed you as second best? Maybe the answer is yes. Maybe the answer is no. It's up to you.
 

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I honestly don't want her back anymore. Doing much better career wise and family wise after I ended that relationship. Problem is , everyone in my family likes her and everyone in her family likes me... in my weak moments I think about maybe working it out then I come back to manhood and erase everything else.
 

Between_The_Lines

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Pogba said:
I honestly don't want her back anymore. Doing much better career wise and family wise after I ended that relationship. Problem is , everyone in my family likes her and everyone in her family likes me... in my weak moments I think about maybe working it out then I come back to manhood and erase everything else.
Those are their wishes and desires, not yours. Don't fall for that most common of all traps blue pill.
 
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