When the man spend 80% of his time slaying dragons

[jhonny9546]

A very common situation I found on a relationship site.

I'm M35 and my wife is F31, and we've been having some issues lately. We have two kids, and I work long hours, usually 9 a.m. to 8 p.m., Monday through Friday. We usually spend Saturday afternoons together as a family, and I try to make sure we have at least one date night a month, just the two of us. On Sundays I manage a golf team, so I'm out from about 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. For the past year, my wife has been complaining (mostly to her female friends) that I never make plans, that everything is on her, and that I just go along with things without really caring. She makes it sound like I'm disengaged. Also, she is upset at me. Sometimes I get a Sunday off and I take her with me when I can, but it still feels like she doesn't believe I'm putting in effort. Now she's planning a weekend trip for us. I told her I don't think we really need another trip since we went on one six months ago. She still wants to go, and she's planning to take her mother and the kids. I told her she can go if she wants, but I also said again that I don't think this trip is necessary. I'm actually doing good as a man, but I don't know why her behavior is something like this

He is very much a provider, she has his lifestyle provided, but at the same time she disdains his commitment.

He is doing well, he is a busy man, but in my opinion he spends too little time with his family.
Your thoughts

 

[Hamurabimbi]

The most consistent complaint I've gotten from women is that I work too much. They women I've been with are constantly trying to get me to Call Out of work. So. This guy works way more than I do. And then add his Sunday golf. He is heading for disaster. None of the women I've been with would tolerate a Saturday afternoon a week, one date night a month.

 

[jhonny9546]

They women I've been with are constantly trying to get me to Call Out of work.

Curious about what you were doing. Your past schedule and how didyou feel about

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Curious about what you were doing. Your past schedule and how didyou feel about

44 or so hours/week work. But. I was/am able to see them after work and on weekends most of the time. I certainly can understand their point. But. I have responsibility to work and they rely on me.

 

[BaronOfHair]

He is very much a provider...

Wonder if the ol'ball'n'chain sees him EXCLUSIVELY as such, and as a lover secondairly, if at all. If so, and that's been her mindset from the get-go, he may be in a bind that's irreparable

 

[MatureDJ]

When a man does his job in the bedroom, wifey doesn't need a "date night".

 

[BaronOfHair]

When a man does his job in the bedroom, wifey doesn't need a "date night".

Unless a dude is planning to follow Brian Walshe's example https://www.cnn.com/2023/01/18/us/brian-walshe-murder-charge-arraignment-ana-walshe-wednesday , the missus is going to require wining and dining every now and then. Don't get hitched, if you're opposed to such activity, hoss:

THAT makes less sense than becoming a junior high guidance counselor, DESPITE possessing an intense aversion to cutting pudgy Gundam Wing aficiandos down from the boy's room ceiling, after these fellas have spent one too many nights penning fanfiction, instead of getting inside the prom queen's panties