When the games start

[bunjy]

How would you guys go about dealing with a chick who has just recently (in a 5 month relationship) started to play games (e.g. playing hard to get, sometimes ignoring your txts/calls, acting disinterested at times).

Its strange because beforehand she never played any games but now I have a strong feeling she either a) lost interest and is just keeping me around for attention/ego or b) just loves the drama. Im inclined towards option b as she still seems interested albeit less than before and she still says she 'likes me' and loves having sex with me.

Why would a chick start playing games this far into a relationship?

Im not sure what route to take with this one. On the one hand I feel as if walking away would be the best thing yet on the other maybe playing her at her own game mite be worthwhile. Ive got other girls on the go so it would be no big deal for me too walk away.

What you guys think? To play or not to play? I figure as im spinning other plates (even if one is in another country, lol) Ive got nothing to lose by playing her at her own game. Yet on the other hand Im not sure if its worth the energy.

To some extent I have already been playing it back at her (e.g. not txting her for days or responding at all) but not even sure what to do now. Maybe I should just cut contact completely for a week or two and see what happens??

 

[SoldMySoul]

Whether you decide to play or not is up to you, but probably not in your best interest. You first must ask your self why is she playing games and why now? Once you have an idea, you will know how to proceed.

I can tell you from experience once the games start they will get worse. Is she trying to make you mad? Is there anyone else?

Five months is long enough to feel like you deserve better, that much I know for sure.

If you play along with her games she may increase hers. You will soon find out and good luck. Being with something that has your heart and feelings in mind is really the only way to go in my opinion. Games= Disrespect

 

[saab1981]

From experience, when they start going down the 'not replying for ages' route, then the games have gone from being playful and fun, to just disrespectful and ignorant. If a chick with a high enough IL is busy, she will still make the effort to get back in touch - I'm sorry, but it literally takes minutes to reply to a text or return a call. It's also quite normal for her to play flirty and teasy games, but no so much as to just ignore you completely and leave you hanging there like a spare part. It's just a slap in the face and not worth the hassle, man.

Not replying for days on end generally indicates a dwindling IL from her / maybe another guy on the scene giving her excitement. And maybe she'll get back in touch again with you when it 'suits her' and she needs an ego boost from one of her orbiters.

My advice would be to go down the no-contact route with this one, whether it's days or weeks. If she gets back to you, that's cool, although if she does, make sure she's genuine, and don't let her use you as a short term ego boost before leaving you hanging in limbo yet again- you're much better than that!

 

[scorpio1138]

from now on do not initiate contact with her. no calls no texts.

It's been almost a year now since I started doing that with a FB that started playing games.
not disrespectful, but games never the less.

I leave it entirely up to her. I NEVER initiate contact.

The longest we went without having sex this year was 2 months.
Otherwise we did it 2 or 3 times a month, sometimes a lot more.

2 whole weeks can't go by without her texting me to want me to come over
or go out.

It's a fun experiment and I've learned so much from her behavior and what I've read here....She's highly predictable as a result.