When talking about yourself

[kdnash82]

Maybe it's a different age completely in the past five years, but I was raised to have conversations with people. Ask questions, tell them a story, and then find out more. At times during college, I had a five hour conversation with a girl, and when it ended, she just looked at me and said, "I feel I know you better than my own brother."

I love and hate this feeling... It goes both ways Sometimes I meet a girl and we have this amazing conversation about absolutely nothing. And when it's over, I'm just about ready to propose, which is great because obviously there was a connection made on a level other than sexual. At the same time I'm thinking, what the hell did she just do to me?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I love and hate this feeling... It goes both ways Sometimes I meet a girl and we have this amazing conversation about absolutely nothing. And when it's over, I'm just about ready to propose, which is great because obviously there was a connection made on a level other than sexual. At the same time I'm thinking, what the hell did she just do to me?

You need to engage more women like this so that you don't feel that they are the last one on earth. You'll stop feeling that she's so uniquely special.

 

[Maxtro]

I need a lot more practice in conversing about women. I'm fine when she is talking and I do the active listening thing to keep her going. The problem is when she wants to know about me. I'm like, "Uh duh, you want to know about me, I uh like computers I think." I wish I could tell them that there are lots of things that I would like to do but I don't because I don't have anybody to do them with.

My life is quite boring and I don't like talking about myself for fear of the girl learning how lame I am. Currently my life is nothing but school, work and time at home using my computer. It's just this girl who I've been talking has started to ask more questions of me and they keep throwing me off.

An interesting point is that we are in an Interpersonal Communications class together. We just covered the different types of intimacy; Physical, Emotional (Females Primary), Shared Activity (Males primary) and Intellectual. After class we had a very brief discussion of the lecture as we were walking to the parking lot.

 

[MooseGod]

Dude Maxtro I totally see where you're coming from man. I am bored as hell with just going to work and school and partying a little on the side, but you gotta remember that just because you're doing boring stuff that doesn't make you boring.

The thing that I find most interesting about people is not what they do, but how they do it. Everyone has a unique and interesting (well, not always interesting) perspective, their view of the world around them, and it's your job to sell yourself as one of the interesting people. Ever know somebody in the same circumstance you were in (boring class, dull office environment, etc...) that still seemed alive? Too many people today are corporate drones, almost zombie-like. Brighten up the lives of those around you.

If you're a great conversationalist, you can say nothing but convey a lifetime of experiences with people. Maybe take an improv acting class or something to learn how to think on your feet and be wittier.

And if you still have nothing to talk about, your homework assignment is to read the newspaper, watch some funny movies, read a little literature, sign up for an activity that you have always thought about doing, etc. Loosen up and live a little.