When spinning plates, should you let them know?

[Shivastorm_88]

I'm spinning plates right now (new to this to be honest) and I got one of mine who keeps asking me about ''other girls I see and/or ****'' but she obviously has no proof of that, she's just paranoid (with reason )

How do you guys handle that, do you typically:

1) Flat out tell them?
2) Avoid the subject/be ambiguous to maintain an aura of incertitude? (what I do right now, I feel like it gives me the edge in our relationship)
3) Flat out lie and tell them you don't see anyone

The thing is, I have a very busy lifestyle and I let it known (school, work, martial arts, hiking) so I can easily lie my way out, saying that I'm going hiking X day when one plate wants to see me and I don't because I'm seeing another plate, or whatever.

 

[JohnChops]

I'm spinning plates right now (new to this to be honest) and I got one of mine who keeps asking me about ''other girls I see and/or ****'' but she obviously has no proof of that, she's just paranoid (with reason )

How do you guys handle that, do you typically:

1) Flat out tell them?
2) Avoid the subject/be ambiguous to maintain an aura of incertitude? (what I do right now, I feel like it gives me the edge in our relationship)
3) Flat out lie and tell them you don't see anyone

dont bother telling them anything, in general.

"are you talking to other girls?"
"yeah all the strippers i see on weekends "

You know something funny,stupid, anything to disarm her.

Good luck budday

 

[TDH]

In my opinion if you're not exclusive you should let them know in your own way dnt be too bold but be honest your weighing your options and I never met a SINGLE woman who was only dealing with one man

 

[Shivastorm_88]

dont bother telling them anything, in general.

"are you talking to other girls?"
"yeah all the strippers i see on weekends "

You know something funny,stupid, anything to disarm her.

Good luck budday

That's typically what I do right now... Whenever someone asks me a stupid question, I give a stupid answer. Same goes for something I don't want to answer.

For example:

Her: How many girls have you slept with in the past?
Me (with a grin): About a thousand

And then she will typically pretend to be offended, and I change the subject.

One of my plates has actually confronted me, accusing me of not telling much about myself. I guess my method works so far!

 

[JohnChops]

That's typically what I do right now... Whenever someone asks me a stupid question, I give a stupid answer. Same goes for something I don't want to answer.

For example:

Her: How many girls have you slept with in the past?
Me (with a grin): About a thousand

And then she will typically pretend to be offended, and I change the subject.

One of my plates has actually confronted me, accusing me of not telling much about myself. I guess my method works so far!

Thats a good thing, maintaing mystery is the best thing you can do. Revealing little bits of information about yourself as you go to keep her interested. Exactly, that is a dumb question so do what youre doing and just change the subject. Perfect.

 

[user43770]

Agree with TDH. I'd be open about it.

"Yes, there are a few women that are currently interested in me."