"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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When sleeping at her place is the only option

Aware

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I have a buffer that I need help with overcoming.

For various logistic reasons I cannot bring women to my place, nor I have my own car. The good is that this situation is going to last only few months. The bad - I planned to use this time to significiantly improve my game.

There seems to be a really low chance of a bang on a first date. I figured I should plan ahead, learn where a girl lives, set up a second date closer to her place, walk her home then make some bull**** excuse to get in if she doesn't invite me first (like wanting to use a toilet).

It obviously is going to decrease the chance in numbers game, but I can deal with it.

I need some insight from more experienced DJs.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dgwizdal

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Aware said:
I figured I should plan ahead, learn where a girl lives, set up a second date closer to her place, walk her home then make some bull**** excuse to get in if she doesn't invite me first (like wanting to use a toilet).
That's it. No big deal - even in having my own place sometimes I go back to theirs for the hell of it.
 

salinechow

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What Dg said. Never a problem. Actually easier. They feel way more comfortable at their place. Youre fine. Just keep thinking on your feet and never get down if you dont get the invite. It happens. Yet, if they like you, there will be no mistake and you will be invited up. I am 100% so far. Both times I traveled for a date the girl invited me to spend the night without any BS excuse. Youll be fine.
 
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