When should I text for a date?

[.Paradox.]

Just looking for a bit of guidance in this situation...

-Met this girl in the gym a couple weeks ago and we started talking
-Yesterday I said we should go out sometime and got her number
-Want to set up a date for NEXT Sunday

Should I hit her up this weekend, or wait till next week?

 

[DragonBlood]

Three day advance is normally enough. So say, Friday evening.
Setup too early and they can psych their way out of it.

Up to you para, if you think shes attracted enough it shouldnt matter either way.

 

[Uncharted]

if you think shes attracted enough it shouldnt matter either way.

This.

 

[pdx1138]

Three days advance might be good for a weekday but is not a good idea for a weekend date.

Most women have their weekend plans finalized by thursday.

Ask her out wednesday...for sunday.

 

[.Paradox.]

Three days advance might be good for a weekday but is not a good idea for a weekend date.

Most women have their weekend plans finalized by thursday.

Ask her out wednesday...for sunday.

I actually meant text her THIS weekend, not next weekend. THIS weekend or next Wednesday.

 

[.Paradox.]

Rather than immediately ask her out in the first text, I decided to send her a picture message/inside joke. No response all day. Lmao wooooow. Not sure if wrong number or just being ignored

Oh women...

 

[Korrupt]

Rather than immediately ask her out in the first text, I decided to send her a picture message/inside joke. No response all day. Lmao wooooow. Not sure if wrong number or just being ignored

Oh women...

I'd say call the number tomorrow. If no luck, ask her about it and get it straight next time you see her in the gym.

 

[VladPatton]

Rather than immediately ask her out in the first text, I decided to send her a picture message/inside joke. No response all day. Lmao wooooow. Not sure if wrong number or just being ignored

Oh women...

That happened to me. Not a good sign, so tread carefully.

 

[.Paradox.]

I'd say call the number tomorrow. If no luck, ask her about it and get it straight next time you see her in the gym.

That happened to me. Not a good sign, so tread carefully.

Why the f*ck would a girl give you a fake number or ignore you when you see her every week? Wtf?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Dude... seriously, why would you text her to ask her out? Texting KILLS relationships, as well as dating prospects. Furthermore, why would you just send her a picture? How the heck is she supposed to respond to that - with an "LOL" message? Is it supposed to turn her on?

The purpose of the phone is to use it as a tool to get the date - nothing more. And in this case you don't even need the phone - assuming you see her at the gym regulary, you could've just asked her out there. Regardless, you don't need to waste your time sending random texts to this chick in the hopes of building interest - that's what the DATE is for. Wait 3 days before you want to take her out to ask her out, then don't contact her again until you see her on the date. You will get better results if you stay off the phone LESS. Hope this helps!

 

[.Paradox.]

Dude... seriously, why would you text her to ask her out? Texting KILLS relationships, as well as dating prospects. Furthermore, why would you just send her a picture? How the heck is she supposed to respond to that - with an "LOL" message? Is it supposed to turn her on?

The purpose of the phone is to use it as a tool to get the date - nothing more. And in this case you don't even need the phone - assuming you see her at the gym regulary, you could've just asked her out there. Regardless, you don't need to waste your time sending random texts to this chick in the hopes of building interest - that's what the DATE is for. Wait 3 days before you want to take her out to ask her out, then don't contact her again until you see her on the date. You will get better results if you stay off the phone LESS. Hope this helps!

Just to clarify, it was a pic with text. An inside joke. Not just a random picture lol.

And I "asked her out" at the gym, but decided to take her number so I could contact her and set it up later.

 

[Boscus]

''Drinks my place?''

Text her that

 

[TheCWord]

''Drinks my place?''

Text her that

An alt: "Drinks Thursday? 8:30pm @ wherever"

After SS taught me about using texting as a tool and NOT as a means of building attraction, I did exactly that last week. Got the number, sent a couple friendly messages back and forth, then, "Drinks Thursday? 8:30pm @ [bar across the street from my house]"

 

[Boscus]

An alt: "Drinks Thursday? 8:30pm @ wherever"

After SS taught me about using texting as a tool and NOT as a means of building attraction, I did exactly that last week. Got the number, sent a couple friendly messages back and forth, then, "Drinks Thursday? 8:30pm @ [bar across the street from my house]"

Ya agree. Texting is only used as a tool to meet in real life, in real life, that's when you can game her properly... a woman has a gazillion guys texting her at any one point, so you have to be assertive and set up a meet, or she'll catergorize you the same as the other afcs...

 

[.Paradox.]

***UPDATE***

For anyone who cares, she got back to me. She sent me: "Hey! Sorry I was working all weekend it was nuts.Those are so funny haha" (in reference to my pic/inside joke).

She's definitely bullsh!tting.

That was earlier today. Didn't see her in the gym so when I got home I responded with a text trying to set up a date. I'll update with her response when I get it. Hopefully it takes her less than 48 hours to respond this time.

 

[TheCWord]

***UPDATE***

For anyone who cares, she got back to me. She sent me: "Hey! Sorry I was working all weekend it was nuts.Those are so funny haha" (in reference to my pic/inside joke).

She's definitely bullsh!tting.

That was earlier today. Didn't see her in the gym so when I got home I responded with a text trying to set up a date. I'll update with her response when I get it. Hopefully it takes her less than 48 hours to respond this time.

Those are some red flags but I hope it works out. If she takes too long to respond or making the plans don't come easy, be prepared to abort immediately before you get too attached. Just looking out for you, man

 

[.Paradox.]

Those are some red flags but I hope it works out. If she takes too long to respond or making the plans don't come easy, be prepared to abort immediately before you get too attached. Just looking out for you, man

Yeah, I completely agree. If she says "she can't" and doesn't reciprocate it'll pretty much tell me everything I need to know. We'll see...

 

[.Paradox.]

Yep. Bullsh!tter and attention wh0re. She texts me back saying "blah blah I should tell you I've been seeing someone, but you seem like a cool guy so I'd be down to hang out after school blows over."