"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When should I call?

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Captain Ramen

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Here is the situation:
I met this girl last Wednesday night. I sat down next to her friend and then started to hit on her. I know she was/is interested. The problem, which is not a problem at all, is that I am in South America for the next three weeks on business. I left on Saturday. I usually wait to call at least 5 days and have never had a problem doing this; I feel that three weeks will be too long to wait. I dropped the hint in the friend's ear that I would be overseas for the next few weeks but didn't tell the girl I was attracted to, mostly because our conversations(me and hot girl had light-hearted topics instead of the work, career, interests b.s.). I got the girl's number without any hesitation and her cheeks even flushed when I asked, so I am confident she wants/wanted a piece.I would've stayed and tried to get some that night but I had a f**king conference call at 8:30 the next morning. So should I call her while I am overseas or should I just wait till I get home(I have a company card so I won't be paying for it)? I travel frequently so similar situations have happened but previously it was either a one night stand or I had actually taken the girl out before heading overseas for the majority of a month. Just looking for opinions.

Wrap it up,

Captain Ramen
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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realsmoothie

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You better call while you are overseas. Does it cost that much? Three weeks is too long, even if you're in the cast of Swingers.
 
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crowes22

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Personally, I'd wait til you return to call, we both know her friend will tell her what the deal is, you can count on that, let her wait. Plus you're in SA, your'e nailing latinas, she is thinking this and hoping she'll be next.

Good luck.
 
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