when should I call the girl again?

[playboy77]

I met a girl this past Monday, got her number, then called her today -- 2 days later. She didn't answer. She could have been busy, or she could have felt it was me and not answered on purpose. I know, I'm an insecure little bi@ch but what'ya gonna do?

When should I call her again?

thanks

 

[doctorj]

call her again, if she still doesn't respond, delete her number...easy?

 

[trent81]

Call her tomorrow one more time. Everyone deserves the rule of 2. If you don't know what the rule of 2 is, I suggest you believe in "second" chances. And then delete her number. You don't want to call a third time.

 

[The Piano Master]

One more time. If there is a failure, no more.

 

[xdreamz]

what if you call her friend to ask where she was and he tells you that she told him that she'll be busy the whole week? will you still call the next day?

 

[arutha]

Why the hell would you do that? Its kinda a form of stalking asking her friends what she is up to.

If you know she is going to be busy, however, of course you don't bother calling then. You know it won't get through.

 

[playboy77]

what if you call her friend to ask where she was and he tells you that she told him that she'll be busy the whole week? will you still call the next day?

If you were serious, then I must tell you that I don't know any of her friends.

Call her tomorrow one more time. Everyone deserves the rule of 2. If you don't know what the rule of 2 is, I suggest you believe in "second" chances. And then delete her number. You don't want to call a third time.

Is the rule of 2 a mindset thing as in "I'll give the girl a second chance, if she answers, she's lucky. If she doesn't, she just missed out on some very good c@ck?"

Because if it is, I like it. However, I had something else in mind. Check it,

what if I called her, and if she didn't answer, I would leave her a message. A simple one, "hey, it's xxxxxx, give me a call back."

If she doesn't call back, I'd call her back later that evening and leave her the following message.

note: the following message is a modified version of "no reply" email I found in one of ross jeffries newsletters. he shared it with his newsletter subscribers who I guess needed a way to get girls to answer their emails cause they were getting the cold shoulder. I used it in an email once and it work like a charm. I'm thinking if it worked by email that one time than maybe it'll work via voice mail.

check it,

"I don't know why you haven't replied[returned my call],
but I know I don't like it and don't have
time to figure it out. When you're in a
better way and you knock on the door just
right, I might still open it."


if delivered right(non affected, confidently with a pinch of charm), this will make me look like I'm taking control of the situation. Then, if she doesn't call back I will KNOW she's not interested without losing respect since I'm telling her exactly why I won't be calling her anymore. From there, if I don't call her back it's because I chose not to call her back based on HER BEHAVIOR, and she knows it. And her knowing it is the beauty of it because then I'm not the one being rejected in her mind, SHE IS. My social value increases while hers drops.

I like the rule of 2 but it relies on the *assumption* that she's not interested in me, which lowers my social value in her eyes and subconsciously effects my self esteem in a bad way . If I don't call her after the second time, then she will assume I did not call her again because I thought she was not interested in me. I knew a girl who was approached by a guy who got her number. He called her like 2 or 3 times then didn't call anymore. She thought he thought she was not interested in him, that's why he stopped calling. I asked her if that was the reason why she did not answer her phone, and she told me that it was not. He just happened to call at a bad time, she said. His decision not to call her again only made him look bad in her eyes, and obviously killed any chance he may have had with her. This is the problem with assumptions; they are always left open to error.