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When should I call in this situation?

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I got this girls number at a party Saturday. She seemed to really be into me and say that I should call soon and we'll party.

I was planning on calling Thursday...day before when there'd likely be a party or something.

However, I dunno...should I treat this more normally and call after about 2-3 days (so...call today, Tuesday), or just stick with Thursday? OR does it not really even matter?

And btw, I'm not looking for a relationship...I just want to hook up with her and **** her. She's known for being easy so...assuming I can get out with her, I'm sure I can hook up with her at least. She also seems to be really into partying which is why I'm so curious about this. Should I just stick with the idea of meeting up with her to go to a party, or should I talk to her and try to get a date or something.
 

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So you too want to post your flag in this party chic's canyon.

Chic's that party alot are VERY flakey .. so .. call when you like. I doubt her mind is on you that much right now. The only advantage to not calling for a bit is if you know the girl really digs you. She builds you up in her mind wondering when you'll call. Not for this situation.
 

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
So you too want to post your flag in this party chic's canyon.

Chic's that party alot are VERY flakey .. so .. call when you like. I doubt her mind is on you that much right now. The only advantage to not calling for a bit is if you know the girl really digs you. She builds you up in her mind wondering when you'll call. Not for this situation.
Haha, yeah. That's why I was torn. A big part of me was thinking I should stick with the idea of meeting up with her at the next party, but another part was curious whehter I should treat her like...non-party girls. I'm not used to them.

So, your vote is for Thursday (night before we'd likely go out to a party)?

Do you have any other things I should know about dealing with party girls? Like...um...I dunno, I'm curious whether or not I should suggest going out, but not partying like suggesting that we meet up and chill together if we can't party. Again, part of me is saying sure, go ahead, while the other is worried that getting too much out of the party environment would be bad.
 

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She's a fleeter. I'd call her more 'in the moment'. To me, party girls have some kind of attention deficit disorder.

Yeah, if you just want to do her every now and then treat her like you would any ordinary farm animal (lol). Treat slvts like slvts, and treat nice girls like nice girls. To treat one type as the other will backfire much more often than not. Treat a slvt nice and she'll run for the hills (doesn't feel worthy). Treat a 'nice' girl slvtty and she'll cut if off with you (feels she's worth more than just sex). You got the right idea. Also be sure to talk alot of sex with this chic and get her drunk. That's it. Use protection (probably double-up) lol. Crraaazzy.
 

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
She's a fleeter. I'd call her more 'in the moment'. To me, party girls have some kind of attention deficit disorder.

Yeah, if you just want to do her every now and then treat her like you would any ordinary farm animal (lol). Treat slvts like slvts, and treat nice girls like nice girls. To treat one type as the other will backfire much more often than not. Treat a slvt nice and she'll run for the hills (doesn't feel worthy). Treat a 'nice' girl slvtty and she'll cut if off with you (feels she's worth more than just sex). You got the right idea. Also be sure to talk alot of sex with this chic and get her drunk. That's it. Use protection (probably double-up) lol. Crraaazzy.
Okay.

Couple specific question about the whole "not treating sluts like nice girls" thing (btw, this is good info...I've probably messed up a bit in the past from this): How would you suggest I get the phone call to work mechanically? Like...I'm guessing I want it to be fairly short and with a lot of innuendo. Do I want to attempt a date/hanging out type thing if it seems a party isn't an option this Friday?
 

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Oh yeah, hang out no matter what. You want sex with this chic, assume it will happen. Don't think for a moment she won't, you know she likes it just for the 'fun' of it.

Think of it this way, if it isn't you this weekend, it will no doubt be some other guy. Why not you? This is all the slvts are good for as been stressed here time and time again. Be a little dominate with her, but not overly so. Tell her you like her azz when you're out, things like this.

Don't go in with a 'nice' guy mindset for a girl like this. Go in with a 'i'm going to blow a nut' mindset and that is all. This girl means nothing and she expects even less. It's kind of a crude way, but that's the way these girls are.
 

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
Oh yeah, hang out no matter what. You want sex with this chic, assume it will happen. Don't think for a moment she won't, you know she likes it just for the 'fun' of it.

Think of it this way, if it isn't you this weekend, it will no doubt be some other guy. Why not you? This is all the slvts are good for as been stressed here time and time again. Be a little dominate with her, but not overly so. Tell her you like her azz when you're out, things like this.

Don't go in with a 'nice' guy mindset for a girl like this. Go in with a 'i'm going to blow a nut' mindset and that is all. This girl means nothing and she expects even less. It's kind of a crude way, but that's the way these girls are.
Awesome man, thanks for the advice.

See, I wasn't sure if seeing if she wanted to hang out/go out if partying wasn't an option was too nice guyish, but..ha, yeah.

Alright, thanks.
 
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