"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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when she's in a bad mood, overdoing c&f, ratio of starting convos

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few things i wanted to talk about. in high school, you're gonna see someone every day if you have a class with them. this is almost a guarantee that sometimes they will not be in a good mood. what do you do when you're around a girl who's in a bad mood?

also, i feel like i might be overdoing c&f to the point where i come off as just an immature jerk. how do i tell when its going too far?

and i remember reading somewhere that the girl should be starting 80% of all convos, is this true?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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like what would a c&f response be when she says "why are you so mean to me?" sometimes i just can't come up with anything in the c&f attitude and either saying something c and not f or just wuss like.
 

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why would she even have to ask that?

c+f doesn't require being mean to her...she shoudl be asking
"why are you so ****y?"

You can pull by simply being happy and in a good mood. If she's in a bad mood, continue to be in a good mood. Only a beta allows others to affect his own disposition. But don't be happy about her problems...tell her you understnad...and that things always get better..that's enough

if she doesnt feel like interacting with you after that and continues to be in a bad mood...talk to other people..unless she has a damn good reason, death of a family member, things that bad...give her a week or two...cause death is part of life... and she has to get over that eventually

stop thinking about things like this..it's unnecessary

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Too much time is spent on technique...You read the dj bible..you read some good articles..once you have the knowledge..go out there and do it..

Thoreau has said it many times...But a good example is buddhism
You can only learn so much from teachers and elders...eventually, to attain nirvana, you must experience for yourself because the path is ineffable...you must experience first hand.

you've gone past experience..you've begun to analyze experience

Get numbers..take them out..this whole thread is unnecessary..why bother with pre-number processes?

You shouldn't have to see them this many times...meet them, get number...or meet them..next time you see them..get number...

Don't think about technique. Cause it's all in the dj bible already
 

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It's all very simple, friend.

****y and Funny is an overrated term. Mostly because everyone misunderstands it, confuses it with the neg, etc. It's reached a point. The reality behind it is just to be yourself, but smile more, have a good time with life, dont take things too serious. Trust me, the ****yness comes natural, and the funniness follows as long as youre not a jerk.

And if a chicks in a bad mood, its not a bad idea to just go talk to other people that day.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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^excellent responses by both of you.

Regarding not being in a good mood, just give her some space and talk to someone else. Trust me, nothing will piss a girl off more than when you try hitting on her when shes in a bad mood. When girls are in bad moods, they need alone time and need some space; not some guy trying to get in their pants.
 
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