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When she says "your so weird"

Chromeo

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I feel like this is a **** test, why? usually because it annoys me when they say this.

thinking to myself "shut up b*tch, im not weird your just stupid, dont fvckin call me weird"

**** test? am I really coming off as weird? or is it all in context, could be good or bad?

was talking to a girl on the phone, she said she was at the grocery store.

her: Im grocery shopping.
me: ya? pick me up some bacon
her: bacon?... haha chocolate bacon?
me: mmm ya that sounds delicious.
her: ha your so.. weird..
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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terran2k

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does she know calling you weird urks you?
you could tell her that you don't like it next time instead of holding it in. But calmly please, not all in a hissy fit.

if the situation were in reverse and you called her weird and she told you she didnt like it. would you stop talking to her? probably not, you'd respect her more for being upfront with you.

what you say after she called you weird anyway?
something like "I'm not the one with a chocolate and bacon fetish"?
 

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Chromeo said:
her: Im grocery shopping.
me: ya? pick me up some bacon
her: bacon?... haha chocolate bacon?
me: mmm ya that sounds delicious.
her: ha your so.. weird..
I don't get it.
I mean, I get the fact that she said you're weird, but what is this post about, Chromeo? She just called you weird and you are wondering if it's a sh!t test???

First of all, she's just as weird as you are... simply because she mentioned chocolate bacon. All you said was that you liked it. But YOU'RE weird for that?

Okay... second, why are you even over-analyzing a piece of conversation like this? I'm pretty sure she just said that you were weird because she simply had nothing else to say about it. It's not a sh!t test, it's not a way to measure your IL, it's not a way to see if you are a potential life partner.

If anything at all, it just shows me how unwitty she is. She comes up with chocolate bacon, you say you'd like it and she comes back with weird?

I know a lot of women who'd have something else to say to that, like having strawberry-dipped eggs with their chocolate bacon.

Sorry that I'm rambling, but it's just that this post is such a non-issue, but we're all so quick to take every little detail and blow it up to nuclear proportions. And so what if a woman calls you weird. I'd rather be called weird than boring. Wouldn't you?
 

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Girls call me "weird", "crazy", and even "creepy" sometimes. It never bothers me at all, and I will just say something like "yeah I am, and you love it", and that ends the crap.

Maybe they want you to be defensive about it, so don't. They would not be hanging around you if you were a normal boring guy, and I will take weird over boring any day.
 

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"yeah I am, and you love it",
This is all you need to say, when you say "you love it" they nearly always say " yeah i do actually". Its just banter, dont over analyse it.
 

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Kailex said:
First of all, she's just as weird as you are... simply because she mentioned chocolate bacon. All you said was that you liked it. But YOU'RE weird for that?
LOL. Wtf is chocolate bacon??

You're both weirddd
 

Chromeo

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I dont know why it bugs me it just does. For some reason it erks me. Confidence issues I guess.

Master Cheif said:
what about if she says your strange?
guess im not the only one getting this or being bothered by it.

Im not really trying to over analyze this conversation Kailex, I just have heard it many times, maybe its just one of those words that since it gets to me I always hear it.

Kinda like when you hear a new word and all the sudden you start hearing it everywhere.

So I was just asking, either im actually being weird, or the woman I talk to are boring as hell or not interested in having a fun conversation with me. But your right, everyone is just as weird. But I dont ever call people weird, seems like a direct insult to who you are. Mean, funny, goofy, loud, nice, boring, whatever but weird... just seems hurtful, but maybe its a good thing, weird = different?


BTW this was the bartender I had that little fling with, why am I talking to her again? Thought I could just be friends with a good looking bartender for social value, but of course she isnt acting how we started off so Im getting bored, especially since she just wants me to come to her bar all the time. She wants me to guest bartend tomorrow. Was gonna do it just to have fun, but now im thinking Im too busy and in the back of my head im really just doing it to gain her approval again so fvck it, I got **** to do.

Im so busy with my business and school I dont know how I even have time to worry about woman but its really bugging me, I think I need to just say no chasing or thinking about women for a couple months.

**also chocolate bacon is pretty damn tasty
 
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Chromeo said:
I dont know why it bugs me it just does. For some reason it erks me. Confidence issues I guess.


guess im not the only one getting this or being bothered by it.

Im not really trying to over analyze this conversation Kailex, I just have heard it many times, maybe its just one of those words that since it gets to me I always hear it.

Kinda like when you hear a new word and all the sudden you start hearing it everywhere.

So I was just asking, either im actually being weird, or the woman I talk to are boring as hell or not interested in having a fun conversation with me. But your right, everyone is just as weird. But I dont ever call people weird, seems like a direct insult to who you are. Mean, funny, goofy, loud, nice, boring, whatever but weird... just seems hurtful, but maybe its a good thing, weird = different?


BTW this was the bartender I had that little fling with, why am I talking to her again? Thought I could just be friends with a good looking bartender for social value, but of course she isnt acting how we started off so Im getting bored, especially since she just wants me to come to her bar all the time. She wants me to guest bartend tomorrow. Was gonna do it just to have fun, but now im thinking Im too busy and in the back of my head im really just doing it to gain her approval again so fvck it, I got **** to do.

Im so busy with my business and school I dont know how I even have time to worry about woman but its really bugging me, I think I need to just say no chasing or thinking about women for a couple months.

**also chocolate bacon is pretty damn tasty
weird and strange i take offense to but crazy, bizarre, insane, i take those as a compliment
 

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I get weird often. Usually it means, you are not an AFC, and you don't come off as some Alpha, and your none needy and quirky and funny and fun and don't fit into any of my preconcieved notions of men and dammit I think you just made my gina tingle and I can't figure out why so you're weird!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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