pete101 said:
I should mention it was AFTER i said 'there's other girls i could meet who want to meet up..' she then goes 'you should go see other girls then.. keep your options open' she did say it rather in a non-jealous calm way, is this definitely a bad warning sign or is testing me to see if im after just 1 thing or genuinely interested in her?
she thinks i just jump from girl to girl
Ok, that changes things. She called your bluff, and probably doesn't take you seriously anymore. I'm assuming you thought this would have the opposite effect of what you wanted... That, her interest would increase, and she'd fight harder. What most likely happened is that she detached herself, and doesn't care. She is correct in thinking you jump from girl to girl after you said this.
You said she has been hurt before, so she's probably on guard, and knows what to look for.
There's no way you can redeem yourself without giving away the control. You tried to play a game on her, and she threw it right back at you - by showing that it has no effect. Just like we are taught to do - the best way to play a game is to not fall for it, and not care if they leave. That's what she did with you.
Unless there's something missing from all this, it sounds like you are the one playing games. She is just beating you at them.
