when she says she doesnt 'date' does that just mean she doesn't date 'you'?

[drift king]

my date tonight was not a date even tho i told her it was a date, i let her off the hook by saying 'oh so you're 1 of those girls who is friends with a guy first to see if u like him then later u go on a date..'

she goes yeah.. did i let her off the hook too easily?

i felt it was a sign of disrespect that she didnt consider it was a date.

in text message before about 2 weeks ago she asked me 'who said anything about a date?'

i was smart and said 'well we'll see u how u do first then we'll talk about a date.'

in due course she recontacted me the week later so obviously my tactic was working or im just kidding myself.

 

[playerone]

Don't get too concerned about the dating issue. As long as you're going out with her, doing your thing and working on attraction, who cares if it's a date or not. Let it go and show her these trivial matters don't bother you. Remember to kino, then escalate. That's the more important part.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Yes exactly. Forget trying to put labels on your outings and just go out and do your thing. Labeling things as a "date" puts unnecessary pressure on both people.

Back in the old days (this must have been like 9th or 10th grade) I once made the mistake of trying to clarify with the girl whether the movie we went out to counted as a date or not. I don't even know how I could ever have been that awful. Needless to say that was pretty much the end of my interaction with this girl.

 

[Dante420]

Take the word "Date" out of your vocabulary.

Problem solved