"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When she says..."Do you like me?"...

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How do you respond to this?

Sometimes i like them, and honestly, sometimes i dont.

How do you give them a good answer?
a c+f answer?


Getting them to this point must mean i am doing something right, cause they are usually after me, but after this question.....??

any ideas?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"I don't know... Why don't you tell me why I should like you?"
Come on guys, is it really that hard to come up with an answer?
 
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Her: Do you like me???

You: Of course not, that would be a crazy thought now wouldn't it!!! :D


You have to be able to sell the lines, that's the key to elevating her interest level assuming you ARE interested.

If you aren't interested then dance around the question.


Her: Do you like me?

You: Akward silence....ummm your a great person and we really get a long but more on a buddy level, ya know???



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many of the girls i talk to assume things....theyre always saying "you love me"... every time they say that im just like "yea youre damn right i love you......in a brotherly way"
 
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I'm just typing these so if they come out as flops in a real situation don't hold me responsible. You could be successful using these or just come off as a weirdo or an idiot depending on how you say them so be careful.

"That depends, do you also come in large medium or small varieties?"

"Yes, I'd like two of you for each arm."

"Sure, I like my girls well done and steaming hot, tell me you're done."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I always say:

"Like you, I hardly even know you."

This line has been pretty successful on the few occasions in which i've had a chance to use it.
 
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It is tough to be ****y/funny/neg-hittish to a girl that you don't really like though.

I think a good response is "I don't like girls that ask those types of questions."

Then you have an OUT for the girls you don't like, and you have set a "rule" for the girls that you DO like to follow.
 
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Neg Hits:

"Of course I like you ... What's your name again?"

"Of course I like football .. Wait, what was the question?"

"Like you? I fricken love you ... Oh, I was thinking of somebody else. Sorry."

"No I don't like you, and stop begging me for sex. It's really annoying."

C & F:

"I like you, but just as a friend. A really hot friend who dances around my house naked."

"Of course I like you .. you were great in that issue of Playboy ... that was you wasn't it?"

"I like any woman who cleans my house topless ... Uhm, you do that, right?"

"Ask me over breakfast"

It is tough to be ****y/funny/neg-hittish to a girl that you don't really like though.
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Why? It's some good practice. Besides, it's good social proof. Women are socially competitive, so the more chicks fawning over you, the better. Neg hit them all if you ask me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I love you like a fat dude loves fried chicken.

Did I do it right?
 
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Well, here's what NOT to say:

"Like you? I can't believe you're even asking that! You are SO great! I was hoping you would like me, not the other way around! WOW!"

However, if you don't feel comfortable doing the C&F stuff, I think this is a good approach: After she asks you the question, pause like you're thinking it over, then, just say, "Yeah. I like you." Or, better yet, tell her you like a particular feature about her. Say, "I like the way you. . ." it doesn't matter as long as it is genuine. This way, you avoid admitting that you "like her," while giving her a compliment all the same.

I think some guys get confused thinking that the best strategy is always to bust on a girl. It's perfectly ok to compliment girls or admit to liking them, you just shouldn't do it in a needy way while trying to convince them that they should like you.

Now, if it’s girls you don’t really like, um, why are you talking to them anyway?
 
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Originally posted by A.J. Stanson
...Now, if it’s girls you don’t really like, um, why are you talking to them anyway?
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LOL, i dont know. Just for female stacking points. I guess we could start a whole new thread on this, but how do you just ditch 'em?? I mean, the whole avoidance thing is like an issue you dont want to see, hear, or talk about.... you just want them to disappear, or something... i dont know i could be way off base, but it seems hard to just say "Bug off", even in a nicer way.
-That's not so much the issue though-

Good suggestions down the line though, they make so much sense and sound so basic, yet they dont come to mind when you are in the situation...... funny.
 
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