"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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when she makes no effort?

Jumpin' Jack Flash

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So ive been dating this girl for bout 4 months now. out of all the times we've met up n done something, i can only think of once when she initiated it (and that was only after me leaving it 2 weeks with no contact, as i was busy during this period). and i have also never met any of her friends, altho i have introduced her to my social circles.
How do you guys deal with someone who doesnt initiate?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Please correct me if i'm wrong as i am still learning, but isn't the man suppose to initiate everything that he can? Although it would be easier if the girl initiated but i have been taught that the man has to initiate.

All my girlfriends, except one (which initiated alot), initiated only a couple of things and i did everything else.

thats my 2 cents
 

Jumpin' Jack Flash

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Well that was only one time. since then we have gone for longer amounts of time without seeing each other, and normally its me to initiate it. correct me if im wrong, but i think its unusual to have been in a relationship for 4 months without ever having met one of her friends?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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