When she made a counteroffer.

[charlezz]

My situation :- My ex and I have not been contacting one another for 3 months. Recently, she starts to msn me and sms talks ( mostly short msgs )
Decided to ask her out on this Wed for dinner and drinks.

She counter offered me to meet up next weekend instead because she is working at a very distant place and unable to meet me on wed (weekday).

I rejectedher by saying "I'll be busy on weekends so let's talk again. Gd night"

I was wondering..

Am i doing the correct thing? Some advise me to accept the date since I'm the one initiating. I can see Most guys of high interest will accept the date. I was thinking, if i accept the weekend date. It will seem I'm too available. What will be the more ideal next step to do.?

Need views and comments. So appreciated!

Ps.. Please do not respond with "Go by your heart, do what you think is correct" kinda stuffs. Thanks

 

[Desdinova]

Ps.. Please do not respond with "Go by your heart, do what you think is correct" kinda stuffs. Thanks

:crackup:

My situation :- My ex and I have not been contacting one another for 3 months.

And that's the way it should stay.

Am i doing the correct thing?

Why the hell are you pursuing your ex? She's an ex for a reason, and you should let sleeping dogs lie. Why go backwards with your life when you could move ahead and date other women?

You are like the dog who eats his own 5hit. Leave the 5hit behind and find something new and fresh to indulge in.

 

[amoka]

perfect response

The best thing you did so far was to not accept her offer. It indeed shows you have other things to do on the weekend. Now, did she say she can't meet you on wednesdays or just that particular wednesday? Is she can't meet on weekdays, and is only available on the weekends, make to date to next weekend or somethings. Certainly, don't make her sense you're too available.

---Amoka

 

[WestCoaster]

One thing I like about this board is the ability to quit reading a post after getting to one word.

In this case, the word is "ex" which cuts back on my time of reading the rest of the over-analysis on this board.

"Ex" means she's just that and time to move on. Why in the world aren't you focused on NON-ex's?

Funniest line of the day -- maybe the year -- from Desdinova:

You are like the dog who eats his own 5hit. Leave the 5hit behind and find something new and fresh to indulge in.


LOL!!!!!!

 

[DJDamage]

She contact you therefore you call the shots.

If you want to fvck her and is she interested in doing the same, then you call the shots.

You are her ex and she contacted you! therefore you call the shots. Don't let her back in your life so easily. Lets face it you want sex and not the bullsh1t drama talk you and her had that led to the breakup. If she wants to be around you then you let her know that (in a subtle way) she can start off being your fvckbuddy and you are not making any other promises.

In the meantime you go and date other women but never let her be your g/f again. Why? because she desired someone better and walked out on you and by letting her back into life and have her calling the shots again and being your g/f, she will walk all over you again. She will dump you for another guy because the desire to be with someone ELSE is greater then being with YOU. You don't know the real reason she is calling you. She might be experiencing a dry spell with some of the men and therfore is seeking something familier but as soon as its "raining men" all over again she will leave you.

DJD

 

[charlezz]

Hey Desdinova, I respect your answer.

Now I'm more "Process Oriented", more on the General discussion of whether guys should accept weekend counteroffers on the next week. Moreover, I've better control of myself compared to last year, at least i rejected her.. (You will be surprised how many guys will accept the date in my case.)

Every experience with a girl is a practice for the next.

Amoka

She accepted my offer initially. Then she realized its not conveinent since she work 2 hrs away.

Alright back to counter offers, its highly questionable on when should a guy give his "weekend" to a particular girl. When will you guys give away that?

 

[charlezz]

She contact you therefore you call the shots.

If you want to fvck her and is she interested in doing the same, then you call the shots.

You are her ex and she contacted you! therefore you call the shots. Don't let her back in your life so easily. Lets face it you want sex and not the bullsh1t drama talk you and her had that led to the breakup. If she wants to be around you then you let her know that (in a subtle way) she can start off being your fvckbuddy and you are not making any other promises.

In the meantime you go and date other women but never let her be your g/f again. Why? because she desired someone better and walked out on you and by letting her back into life and have her calling the shots again and being your g/f, she will walk all over you again. She will dump you for another guy because the desire to be with someone ELSE is greater then being with YOU. You don't know the real reason she is calling you. She might be experiencing a dry spell with some of the men and therfore is seeking something familier but as soon as its "raining men" all over again she will leave you.

DJD

Totally agreed,

I may be playing hard to get here and she may not even care a damn thing. But hey, its an experiment. Just wanna try my method. If it works. it works.

 

[Desdinova]

(You will be surprised how many guys will accept the date in my case.)

No, it wouldn't. I did it a few times before I finally quit with the whole second chance thing. If she screwed things up the first time, what would make things different the second time? Love? Gimme a break.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

My situation :- My ex,..

Decided to ask her out,...

Am i doing the correct thing?

A wise man once told me:
Never dig through the garbage once you've dragged it to the curb. You rarely find what you're looking for, you end up smelling afterwards and your neighbors see you doing it.

 

[DJDamage]

I may be playing hard to get here and she may not even care a damn thing

You don't play hard to get, you play hard to please. She contacted you, therefore if she wants you in her life, you call all the shots and if she disagree's then you should blow her off completley. You don't need to play much games when you are in a position of power, all you need is never to relinguish that power by agreeing to her counteroffers or her flakes. Remember she fvcked up the relationship by dumping you and if she wants to come back in your life in some capacity, she needs to do whatever she can to try and please you. If you are even slightly peeved then she is outta here. Most times it ain't worth it.

Your offer and your say is always the final word. Make sure you are all business when you do this and don't let her get too comfortable around you so she won't start getting control (stop talking on msn its bvll****). If its an easy pvssy I say go for it but beware of the pitfulls. Just make sure that you are tapping other girls because other wise you will get back to square one.

Once they say its over you should never agree to become their b/f but that doesn't mean you can't still get sex under your own terms.

DJD

 

[charlezz]

Thanks guys.. Great advices