When she jokes about having small boobs....

[FM 3321]

Here's something I just couldn't figure out anywhere and this has happened a few times this year and most recently last night. I was out with a girl who looks pretty damn good and somehow we were talking about strip clubs and she said "yeah, I couldn't work there unless I get $10,000 for my small boobs...ha ha ha"

All I could come up with then and in the past was "haha... look at mine, I'm the one that needs work."

This is not the typical problem I see posted here but I've been surprised at how beautiful women could be so insecure. Give me your thoughts.

 

[Scrumtulescence]

"They're big enough for me!" (grab tits) "Honk honk!"

 

[FM 3321]

"They're big enough for me!" (grab tits) "Honk honk!"

Haha...that's a great answer. I'll use that from now on.

 

[( . )( . )]

All I could come up with then and in the past was "haha... look at mine, I'm the one that needs work."

Self-depreciation is an ugly habit your gonna have to shake, Rollo has an excellent post on it you should check it out.

As usual Scrumtulescence's reply was lame and unless your boning her or your rapport and confidence is unshakable your going to be raped in our good Lady's court system.

Is it so bad to play on a hotties insecurities? (within reason)

The answers no.

Why not acknowledge her flaws then build her back up?

Chick: "I got tiny tits"

You: "Yeah, but (insert C&F response , lean it toward a mild compliment if you must)"

Never associate her perceived flaws with your own, you have NONE, she doesnt get to think shes peeling the layers of your complexity off until shes proved her worth. (fvcking and respect in other words).

You get what I mean?

 

[realsmoothie]

Haha...that's a great answer. I'll use that from now on.

Geez... if you guys are comfortable with grabbing a girl's boobs when you just met her, you really don't need any help.

 

[Scrumtulescence]

As usual Scrumtulescence's reply was lame

Yeah, well you quote Skip2mylou in your sig. You lose.

 

[( . )( . )]

Yeah, well you quote Skip2mylou in your sig. You lose.

Skips quote is a hall of shamer, not fame. Its only got a few more days to wallow in its absolute stupidity. Your KJ tit grab reply still sucks.

 

[DarkLight]

LMAO!
too funny.

And yes... your sh!t was lame.
Titties dropped some good science.

Besides the suave rebuddles, that keep a stainless perception of you (smoothing her over)...
situations like those, are also great escalation moments.
Why you ask?
... Cause she's open and vulnerable in the air of her insecurities.
Your the one in power, and she needs the re-assurance of value.

A simple... "Hey!" Getting her to look up, and meet your gaze.
A strong pimp sexy look of value... (telling her that you don't allow such self-defeating attitudes in your presence. Which indirectly credits your own value, and power. Let your look tell her, everything is beautiful in my presence. Like your the fountain of creation itself. i.e. A GOD!)... then you lean in and kiss her like the night and shining prince of her dreams.

Such a little moment can become the total opportunity of pvssy-melting ownership, that a DJ waits for. Its all how you respond!

Peace'

 

[Le Parisien]

Here's something I just couldn't figure out anywhere and this has happened a few times this year and most recently last night. I was out with a girl who looks pretty damn good and somehow we were talking about strip clubs and she said "yeah, I couldn't work there unless I get $10,000 for my small boobs...ha ha ha"

All I could come up with then and in the past was "haha... look at mine, I'm the one that needs work."

This is not the typical problem I see posted here but I've been surprised at how beautiful women could be so insecure. Give me your thoughts.

I wasn't there so I can only guess from what you felt about the situation.

I sense that she's quite secure about her boobs, otherwise she won't be joking about it. She knows that her boobs are not huge, but big enough to not be called "flat chested". We know that for most of us it's not the bigger the better...

It's like if I was joking about "nah, I can't be a porn actor. My d*ck is not big enough, plus I'm Asian..." Do you think I'm really insecure about my own little buddy, and about the fact of being Asian?

People who are GENUINELY insecure about something would avoid the topic like the plague.:yes:

 

[bigneil]

When she complains of small boobs I always say:

"More than a handful is a waste.......... but then again I can palm a basketball....."

 

[squirrels]

Here's something I just couldn't figure out anywhere and this has happened a few times this year and most recently last night. I was out with a girl who looks pretty damn good and somehow we were talking about strip clubs and she said "yeah, I couldn't work there unless I get $10,000 for my small boobs...ha ha ha"

All I could come up with then and in the past was "haha... look at mine, I'm the one that needs work."

This is not the typical problem I see posted here but I've been surprised at how beautiful women could be so insecure. Give me your thoughts.

No comment, or a casual change of subject, can be a powerful alternative to "trying to figure out the right thing to say".

What makes men think they HAVE to come up with a "proper response" to everything a woman says? Chill.

Try instead to appreciate the REASON that a woman says something like that. She obviously feels inadequate next to the "paradigm of beauty" which is a good stripper, so she's suggesting that she COULD, in fact, meet that paradigm with the right resources. She wants to be sexy for you.

To tell the truth, if you look a little deeper, she WANTS to be sexy, but she's afraid/nervous. There are PLENTY of small-chested strippers out there...boobs aren't what's holding her back. That's like you saying, "well, if I had a million dollars and a top 20 album, I'd get all the chicks!" Those things aren't really what's holding you back...your own fear is.

You may want to consider indulging her fantasy at some point. How about this for a response?: "Well it takes more to be a stripper than big boobs. Can you dance sexy?" Set the challenge for her and give her an opportunity to respond in a "safe" setting.

Remember "chick logic"...women think up logical explanations after the fact. By playing to that logic, you're chasing a laser-pointer dot on the wall...you'll never get what you're after. Instead, look underneath.

 

[FM 3321]

No comment, or a casual change of subject, can be a powerful alternative to "trying to figure out the right thing to say".

What makes men think they HAVE to come up with a "proper response" to everything a woman says? Chill.

Try instead to appreciate the REASON that a woman says something like that. She obviously feels inadequate next to the "paradigm of beauty" which is a good stripper, so she's suggesting that she COULD, in fact, meet that paradigm with the right resources. She wants to be sexy for you.

To tell the truth, if you look a little deeper, she WANTS to be sexy, but she's afraid/nervous. There are PLENTY of small-chested strippers out there...boobs aren't what's holding her back. That's like you saying, "well, if I had a million dollars and a top 20 album, I'd get all the chicks!" Those things aren't really what's holding you back...your own fear is.

You may want to consider indulging her fantasy at some point. How about this for a response?: "Well it takes more to be a stripper than big boobs. Can you dance sexy?" Set the challenge for her and give her an opportunity to respond in a "safe" setting.

Remember "chick logic"...women think up logical explanations after the fact. By playing to that logic, you're chasing a laser-pointer dot on the wall...you'll never get what you're after. Instead, look underneath.

Ok, I'll keep this in mind. Alot of good responses can come about with the attitude of looking underneath instead of just looking at the surface.

 

[JustDoItAlways]

The best response is to say "But they're more sensitive aren't they" and then change the topic after she has digested what you just said.

What you just said is that you would love to have your lips on them and she would love to have your lips on them since they are so sensitive and all. You also just said you don't mind her small tits and you are a guy that knows your way around a woman.

She will fantasize about it afterward. Good result all around.

 

[Cod3r]

Yeah, well you quote Skip2mylou in your sig. You lose.

lol


-Cod3r

 

[Kev07]

one time my friend(who has a boyfriend) was talkin to me and out of nowhere she was like, duuude my boobs look big today.
i responded with *insert sly look* "i'm telling bob smith" -_-

she started crackin up like mad.

and she has small boobs i guess she was lookin for an ego boost or something.

 

[Skilla_Staz]

"Boobs small comment"

$10,000? Are you serious? You're gonna need more than that for THOSE things.

 

[Skilla_Staz]

The best response is to say "But they're more sensitive aren't they" and then change the topic after she has digested what you just said.

What you just said is that you would love to have your lips on them and she would love to have your lips on them since they are so sensitive and all. You also just said you don't mind her small tits and you are a guy that knows your way around a woman.

She will fantasize about it afterward. Good result all around.

No, thats not what you just said. You just asked if they were more sensitive.

You're implications are ones that only you would get.

"Yeah, but they're still sensitive babe, if you catch my drift" and an air kiss, is more sexually suggestive.

 

[comic_relief]

No, thats not what you just said. You just asked if they were more sensitive.

You're implications are ones that only you would get.

"Yeah, but they're still sensitive babe, if you catch my drift" and an air kiss, is more sexually suggestive.

I'm using a variation of that from now on. Good tip.

comic_relief

 

[Skilla_Staz]

ha yeah, just something along those lines.

I usually joke about how small they are. If a girl says I'm ugly, I'm flat, My ass is fat etc, I automatically agree with them. If they want me to argue and be like "No you're pretty" or "No they're perfect" then that sucks for them. If you fish for compliments, you're going to get burned.

 

[Jack McCrack]

Generally speaking, the more attractive a girl is the more insecure she is.