"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When she doesn't call back

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Okay, this isn't really hypothetical, but you can imagine that it is if you like.

If you call a girl and she's in the middle of something, like say working out, and tells you she will call you back, but doesn't, what's the best plan of action?

I plan on not calling her again because It's like the game "tag", and she's it. If she's not calling me back, she's not playing correctly and she's disqualified. If she doesn't call me, I take it as a direct correlation to low interest, so why waste more of my time on a chick with low IL, right?

Just looking for some thoughts on this one.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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We've been seeing each other for a couple of weeks. We've gotten down and dirty, but not quiet to the point of knockin' boots. If she would have let me do it that early, I would have been long gone. I don't want a 'ho'e.
 
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When this happens, it brings on the suspense. It's like you want to call so bad, but if you do, you've basically handed her your power. It's very hard to do, and at the same time you feel like something is wrong with you.

In my mind, calling her would be pushy, and we all know what being pushy does.

It's tough to handle sometimes. When you're not experiencing it, you can think of all kinds of reasons why it shouldn't bother you. When you are experiencing it, there's inner turmoil and self doubt.

What I really need to be thinking is "man, she blew it". Because if I had any dignity, I'd protect it from being trampled from such disinterest.
 
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She'll contact you.. Just chill out. Its not the end of the world! She'll get curious and wonder why you didnt chase her up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There is a difference between high, medium and low interest girl.

Low interest girl could tell you that she is working out and says she will call you back but "forgets" to call.

Medium interest girl could tell you that she is working out and says she will call you back and she does.

High interest girl, could tell you that she is working out but will take a break from her workout to talk to you.
 
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Yeah don't call her back that will make you look like a chump.
Just wait for her to call you back. IF she doesn't well then
you know she has no interest anymore.
 
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DJDamage said:
There is a difference between high, medium and low interest girl.

Low interest girl could tell you that she is working out and says she will call you back but "forgets" to call.

Medium interest girl could tell you that she is working out and says she will call you back and she does.

High interest girl, could tell you that she is working out but will take a break from her workout to talk to you.
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What about the fact that girls like to test?
 
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Girls with high interest just don't take that kind of risk. There are sh1t tests out there that will slowly emerge as you get to know the girl, but this isn't one of them.
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I must have done something to lose her interest.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So, asking her if she's mad at me is out of the question?

I just realized that I added her to facebook today and I had a picture of me hugging a girl I was dating.
 
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Yes, out of the question.
And leave the picture up.
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Okay, I'll do it. Don't worry.

I deleted her number completely because I didn't want the temptation to call or text. If I don't have her number, I can't do anything. Saves me from a lot of trouble.
 
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Okay, I'll do it. Don't worry.

I deleted her number completely because I didn't want the temptation to call or text. If I don't have her number, I can't do anything. Saves me from a lot of trouble.
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LOL if she ever wants you to call her in the future :eek:
 
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I deleted her number completely because I didn't want the temptation to call or text. If I don't have her number, I can't do anything. Saves me from a lot of trouble.
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Good move.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LOL if she ever wants you to call her in the future :eek:
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If she wants me to call her in the future, she'll have to call me first, right? Then I'll have her number.
 
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alphamailman said:
LOL if she ever wants you to call her in the future :eek:
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If she ever wants him to call her in the future, she will have to call him first, then he will have her number. Im a big fan of deleting her number, to resist temptation. Honestly though, I dont understand why this topic keeps coming up. There are threads like this being posted every day, and they all get the same answers.

Unless its the OP's first time on this forum (which it's obviously not, by far), he should know the answer, which is: 'it doesnt matter if she calls or not, because your time is valuable, and you have plenty of other things to do, and you will not wait for anyone. If she does not wish to be a part of your life, then there are other women who will be more than happy and grateful to. Hopefully for her, she will call you before you have replaced her.'
 
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If you call a girl and she's in the middle of something, like say working out, and tells you she will call you back, but doesn't, what's the best plan of action?

Nothing. She said she would call back, so she'll back if she's interested.

I plan on not calling her again because It's like the game "tag", and she's it. If she's not calling me back, she's not playing correctly and she's disqualified. If she doesn't call me, I take it as a direct correlation to low interest, so why waste more of my time on a chick with low IL, right?

Right.


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Try not to look at it as a game and keeping score. You won't be able to have a relationship with any girl that way. You are supposed to take her out and have fun with her, make her be happy she's with you, entertain her. Not keep tabs on the amount of negs she gives you or what you said and she didn't.
 
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If she would have let me do it that early, I would have been long gone. I don't want a 'ho'e.
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It shouldn't be about her letting you do it dude. If you both have the attraction and she knows you won't judge her, then game on. It doesn't matter how 'early on' it is.

I suggest you read the DJ Bible over and over again.
 
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horaholic said:
If she ever wants him to call her in the future, she will have to call him first, then he will have her number. Im a big fan of deleting her number, to resist temptation. Honestly though, I dont understand why this topic keeps coming up. There are threads like this being posted every day, and they all get the same answers.

Unless its the OP's first time on this forum (which it's obviously not, by far), he should know the answer, which is: 'it doesnt matter if she calls or not, because your time is valuable, and you have plenty of other things to do, and you will not wait for anyone. If she does not wish to be a part of your life, then there are other women who will be more than happy and grateful to. Hopefully for her, she will call you before you have replaced her.'
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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