When she breaks the no texting b/w dates rule

[TheCWord]

I have this plate who keeps trying to chit chat over text.

I only text to setup dates but she likes to send a fluff text about every other day. Ive been trying to take hours to reply so as to discourage the idea of me being a text buddy, but she doesn't seem to be dissuaded.

I'm not against non-essential texting completely, but i typically like to wait at least a month before we start texting each other about funny things we saw, etc. With this plate, I've only been on one date.

I get the most out of women when there is radio silence between dates and even though i keep these small talk exchanges short, i think us being in touch so much is going to eventually come back to bite me. Am I crazy? What would you do?

 

[JoeMarron]

I don't think this is a problem. The more we invest into someone the more we like that person. Just keep it short and make sure she's always saying more than you are and you're good.

 

[Lord Hypnos]

texting for girls is like crack cocaine, they get addicted to it very easily. so just feed them small morsels of txt messages every now and then to get them excited, but don't overdo it!!

 

[TheCWord]

Now, am I being rude by her sending me all the texts and me NEVER initiating? I always reply, eventually, but never start a convo.

I agree that it is a good thing having her invest this energy and would like it to continue... But is she going to eventually notice she's putting in all the texting and eject? She is a very smart girl. One of those feministas

 

[spiegel549]

I never understood the "don't text between dates" rule. This is 2013. Every single female in my life texts. You can build up some great rapport in between dates and really get her more interested in seeing you.

Now there is such a thing as texting TO MUCH, and texting like a girl. You need to just do it in moderation. If the convo is going on to long you just say "hey I gotta run but ill ttyl!"

All the plates I am spinning love to text. If I only texted them in between dates they would be gone with another dude.

I don't disagree that being unavailable is indeed attractive to women. But not texting at all is unnecessary.

 

[Iceberg]

Now, am I being rude by her sending me all the texts and me NEVER initiating? I always reply, eventually, but never start a convo.

I agree that it is a good thing having her invest this energy and would like it to continue... But is she going to eventually notice she's putting in all the texting and eject? She is a very smart girl. One of those feministas

I don't think you have to strictly adhere to a NO TEXTING rule.

If I go out with a girl on Sunday, maybe I text her something random on Tuesday just to say "what's up." I never get into long text conversations, because that's just annoying. But an occasional "just checking in" text is fine.

Nothing crazy. Just something quick, funny, or interesting. It could be like, "Making filet mignon for dinner. Jealous?"

And then she'll be like "I AM jealous. Blah blah blah."

And then you can let that be the end of the conversation until you wanna text again to set up another date.

Point is - you don't have to go COMPLETELY dark in between dates. You just need to not be constantly available, and constantly blabbing to her. You can easily find a middle ground.

I'm completely honest when I say that my text "conversations" don't go beyond 2 back-and-forth messages. I say something. She replies. I reply to her. She replies again. Boom. End of conversation.

. You need to just do it in moderation. If the convo is going on to long you just say "hey I gotta run but ill ttyl!"

That's funny, man. I don't even do that. I don't think I've ever said "bye" via text in my whole life. I guess I don't consider it to be a real conversation. If it were phone, or even instant messenger, then sure. But text is like...I might go hours between texts anyway, so never saw a point in saying bye. I just stop replying, and I assume that both sides agree that the conversation is over. Unless she's asking a question or it's something that requires a response.

 

[zekko]

I don't think I've ever said "bye" via text in my whole life. I guess I don't consider it to be a real conversation. If it were phone, or even instant messenger, then sure. But text is like...I might go hours between texts anyway, so never saw a point in saying bye. I just stop replying, and I assume that both sides agree that the conversation is over. Unless she's asking a question or it's something that requires a response.

I pretty much agree with this. I see replying to a text as optional, for the most part. For example, we'll be in the middle of a conversation and I will just stop replying. Sometimes I will be called out on this "Why didn't you answer my text?". But I will just say I had to go do x, or I fell asleep, or so and so came to the door, or whatever.

Like Iceberg says, it's not like a real conversation, so you don't have to treat it like one.

The other thing to think about is, while you don't have to engage in texting with a girl, there's a good chance if she's not texting you, she'll be texting some other dude. Whether or not you consider that a concern up to you, I suppose.

 

[TheCWord]

Great responses here, guys. Thanks.

Iceberg: Won't let me rep you.