When she asks "Are you a player?"

[Glenfiddich101]

I've been dating this girl for a few months had sex once and she got flakey after that. We sort of stayed in contact on a as and when basis.

Today she called me made some small talk and dropped the bomb "Do yo consider yourself a player?" Frankly speaking i do not know how to answer a question like that? I just kept it as ambiguos as possible. I know that if i say no, she'll think i'm lying. If i say yes, she wont trust me so its best to play it safe. And upon probing, she thinks i'm one.

She knows i date alot of women but i got my standards. I told her straight that if she doesnt like she sees and feels, there are many other guys out there who can fit her bill. And she said, eventually she will. Good for her. Apparently shes dating other guys as well she she says their boring. Or giving them courtesy dates.

After we hung up, she sent me a msg saying "Sometimes u jus have to be less chauvinistic. And less ambiguous. I just hope i've managed to get the msg across" WTF?! character building time? Sorry dudes, but i make no apologies abt my masculinity. I dont abuse women or mistreat them, but i'm no softie either.

I do not know what her problem is. She said something like she wished i was not a player.

Man, makes you wonder what goes on bet their ears sometimes.

 

[mrbrooklyn]

You did the right thing dude. Never give a straight answer. She has no business asking such a question when she is dating multiple guys.

 

[squirrels]

I actually saw what (I thought) was a very good answer to this question on "Blind Date":

"I think everyone who's single is a player."

 

[wipz]

Yea this one girl asked me this before too. I just told her, "Oh yea totally. Normally I wear my pimp hat and velvet coat. You just caught me on a bad day today." I just made some BS story up and played with her like that. I dont know if that was the right thing or not, but I got a good laugh outa that.

 

[Ojete]

You should answer this kind of test with the classic ****y & Funny question back to her: "What is it about the players that turn you on?"

 

[ScrewIt]

squirrels, i think that line from blind date is what most ppl think about single ppl...in reality

ojete just hit the spot, the classics are always still the best

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Whenever a chick tests you with these types of questions, ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS respond in a sarcastic manner. It will only turn them on to you more. Trust me on that one...


And who in the fuvk does she think she is asking you if your a player when she's doing the same thing??? Takes one to hook one. I'd use her as a fuvk buddy for now, seems like she's trying to make you change into a little wuss bag. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN....GOOD JOB!!




PIMP

 

[WaterTiger]

Your answer should be:

"I'm a man, deal with it."

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by Ojete
You should answer this kind of test with the classic ****y & Funny question back to her: "What is it about the players that turn you on?"

A great example of a line that works well for armchair seductionists In reality, the girl would just laugh and then press you further. You'd have to answer, because anything BUT a straight answer to a question that she asked twice would make her think "he's a player and trying to hide it." Which is fine if she just wants to fvck, but any serious LTR potential disappears the moment she starts thinking of you as a player. She'll feel like she's just another girl you're fvcking, and unless you're so damn awesome that she's willing to look past other women to be with you, you're pretty much fvcked